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Questions about counseling today
#920663 06/19/01 08:11 AM
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My W and I are about to go to our second counseling session today since she told me that she was CONSIDERING reconciliation. The first session went as well as could be expected. I did not mention the OM or the A during that session. Now here is where I need your help. I am contemplating bringing up the fact that I feel her decision to reconcile is being hampered by the continued contact with OM. I know she knows that all contact must stop once she has made that decision, but in my opinion I don't think that she can make that decision with OM in the picture. Do you think it's too early to start talking about OM? Should I not bring him up until she is ready to talk? How should I approach this counseling session? Maybe the counselor will bring it up.<P>S&C
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Here's my take. You need to nurture an environment in which either of you can speak of your feelings, wants, etc. openly and it not be considered a love buster. The love buster would be if you were nasty, threatening, accusatory, etc about it. She needs to know what you are thinking.<P>So yes bring it up. But first tell about your desire for complete openness.<P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare
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Agree with Zorweb - tread gently and with compassion, but yes - you do need to be open and honest with each other.<P>Best of luck!<BR>Paint.

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