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Well I posted last night late in panic over company's picnic today and I knew OW would be there. I was so nervous last night. I was like a 16 yr old getting ready for a date on my hair, and what I should wear, etc.... I didn't sleep at all last night and this morning I was sick at my stomach.<P>My history with this OW is that my H broke off all contact with her last yr in April when I heard of the A and confronted him. They had been having PA and EA for about 18 months to 2 yrs. She was and is a coworker. I had suspected it for over a year but always fed ridiculous lies that I bought because I was in denial. She is married to a much older man who is disabled and she is a caretaker. Her H never knew about the A and she never confessed it to him. She did however harass us by phone every weekend for 6 months until I filed a report on her and she was told what would happen if she called again. But she stills calls off and on when she gets drunk. I have ran into her 3 times in the past year in town and one time with my H.<P>So we skipped the company picnic last year and the Christmas party and any company event she attended while we worked on our marriage. And by the way, my husband transferred to another part of the plant where he no longer works with her.<P>The picnic 2 yrs ago (while they were an item) was horrible. We had already been fighting over his lies and mood swings. He was on a committe with HER to take care of all the volleyball activities. I remember him being with her so much and I was so jealous, yet he denied any affair. At that picnic she stayed under his armpit the whole time, despite the fact her disabled hubby was there. She and my hubby were on same team of every activity and it made me so mad and sick. She never spoke to me and looked down at me the whole time. So it was a horrible memory.<P>Sorry for the lengthy history but it feels so great to vent.<P>TODAY she was there with disabled hubby who recently lost his leg and is not in wheelchair. She was dressed so cute and enjoyed walking right in front of us every chance she got! I couldn't believe her nerve! We went all the way around to avoid her and her family, but no, she had to flaunt herself right in front of us! Why? She danced around to the music as if showing off too. But I remained calm, and my H put his arm around me, talked with me, and socialized with a crowd far from her. She wheeled hubby to restroom and walked right in front of my H, to get his attention! The nerve. So I know she still wants him, but I know too, that I replaced that bad picnic with a good memory. I had my h's attention this year(and honesty). I also was calm and cool, looked good, and YES I did stare at her some with cold eyes, then went on my way as if she was a gnat on dooky!!!! That made me feel great!!!<P>So If I have to be around her again, I can handle it. She seen us a happy family, dedicated to one another and moving on, without her.<P>Thanks for the vent!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Hi Kaymac,<P>Good for you!!!! That is some progress. Knew you could do it. Way to go for both you and your H!<P><<<<hugs to you>>>>><P><BR>Take Care,<BR>L.<BR>

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Just move along. This years Christmas Party should be something to look forward too. And next years picnic. He's with you anyway. That's her problem - not yours.


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