OK, <P>W was here Friday AM to pick up kids, (1yr old is sick and can't go to day care) she keep both all day.<P>I was late for work so I gave her a key.<P>I got hom and she obviously left in a hurry, Breakfast was still on the table.<P>When She delivered the kids, I saked, why did yoy leave in such a hurry?<P>She said,"I'm unconfortable here. Which is BS as she has spent a whole day here.<P>She has not sopken to her real father in 2 years. I speak to him on ocasion, ( We are truly friends),she has asked me not to and I told he I wouldn't. <P>The reason I have contacted heim was to see if he will pay for her to talk with Steve, he agreed.<P>He called me last night to tell me she called him, WOW! a big step for their relationship as wellas for the Marriage!!<P>He represents logic for her!!<P>So I'm not supposed to know she called him. She told him his # was all over my caller ID, (2 times).<P>So she snooped on Friday(second time), I'll assume she saw his # and got pissed and left in a hurry.<P>Additinolly she was very curt wiht me on Friday PM and did'nt even say goodby when she left. <P><BR>Call later Friday evenign and left a message. I returned her called and left a message, she obviously went out.<P>She call Saturday in the AM, I let i tgo to VM, and havn't talked to her since. <P>Do I bring up this up today?<P>Do I ask her if she snooped?<P>Do I ask her if she was mad at me for something on Friday as she just left without saying goodby?<P>DO I ask her if she is sure something wasn't wrong on Friday morning when she left in a hurry?<P>Or do I just leave it alone and let her guide the conversation?<P>JK<P><BR>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by JK:<BR><B>Do I bring up this up today?<P>Do I ask her if she snooped?<P>Do I ask her if she was mad at me for something on Friday as she just left without saying goodby?<P>DO I ask her if she is sure something wasn't wrong on Friday morning when she left in a hurry?<P>Or do I just leave it alone and let her guide the conversation?</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>JK, IMHO,<P>No<P>No<P>No<P>No<P>Yes<P>There are just too many opportunities for the discussion to turn into an argument, and thus, an LB.<P>Be cool and laid back. But if she brings up a question about you communicating with her father, be honest. If she doesn't like your answers and becomes angry, do everything you can to stay calm.<P>WAT<p>[This message has been edited by worthatry (edited July 01, 2001).]

WAT,<P>That's what I thought?<P>I asked her once befor if she snooped, and she said yes, the conversation was light and fun.<P>I guess because this time she proable got mad, I should leave it alone.<P>THanks again.<P>JK<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by worthatry:<BR><B> JK, IMHO,<P>No<P>No<P>No<P>No<P>Yes<P>There are just too many opportunities for the discussion to turn into an argument, and thus, an LB.<P>Be cool and laid back. But if she brings up a question about you communicating with her father, be honest. If she doesn't like your answers and becomes angry, do everything you can to stay calm.<P>WAT<P>[This message has been edited by worthatry (edited July 01, 2001).]</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

JK - you've got to feel your way thru these things, man. It's hard to predict ahead of time what the right thing to do will be. Did Yogi Berra say this: "Forecasting is tough, especially when it involves predicting the future."?<P>Keep in mind your goal for every encounter in Plan A: DON'T LOVEBUST!!!!!!!<P>Also remember, no body's perfect. I've said some real dumb things - I knew it before I took the next breath. So, err on the side of zipping your lip.<P>Good Luck,<BR>WAT

WAt,<P>Just what I needed to hear, Off to the pool with the kiddo's.<P>Have a great day. <P>JK<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by worthatry:<BR><B>JK - you've got to feel your way thru these things, man. It's hard to predict ahead of time what the right thing to do will be. Did Yogi Berra say this: "Forecasting is tough, especially when it involves predicting the future."?<P>Keep in mind your goal for every encounter in Plan A: DON'T LOVEBUST!!!!!!!<P>Also remember, no body's perfect. I've said some real dumb things - I knew it before I took the next breath. So, err on the side of zipping your lip.<P>Good Luck,<BR>WAT</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>