I want to be swept of my feet, not swept under the carpet. <P>Why did I post this? I am not sure. That thought has been running through my head the last few hours. I just had the need to say it. <P>This is just the thought of a distraught and currently unloved person. No need to pay any real attention, I just wanted to say what I really want. I have not been able to concentrate on what I want, I don't really know how to do that anymore. <P>There, that felt better, almost like going to Disneyland? Naw, but it is a start. ...... Now I feel like a dust bunny. <P>L.

I think we all want to feel like that again. I long to be held again. Having the companionship of my H again. The little things that I guess I took for granted are the things I miss the most. Hang in there. We're all in this together!

(((((Orchid)))))<P>Repeat after me: "I am not a dust bunny!" <P>You are one heck of a woman, Orchid!!

((((((Orchid)))))))<P>HUgs to you! You are NOT unloved. Just rejected by the person who's rejection hurts the worst. You are special to all of us. H could never sweep you under the carpet. Don't give him the broom. But i know what you mean. My teddy bear gets quite a lot of hugs from me these days.... Hold on to your dream of being swept away.. it will happen.<P><P>------------------<BR>Faith1

I couldn't have said that better. I was actually thinking that today.<P>Funny thing happened today also. My H's best friend and coworker...though they work on different shifts....called me today out of the blue. He called me again while my H was here visiting the kids.....and then called me again.<BR>Just casual talk.....but I don't really know him that well....only talked to him when he called here for my H.<P>He's single.....kept asking me out....I kept saying no. He kept saying why? I simply stated.....I may be seperated at the moment but I'm still married....and I love my H.<BR>He said.....how could you after everything he's put you through.....I said.....because......love just is....you can't explain it....but the love and respect I have for my H...even though he didn't show me any by what he did....keeps me from doing anything that would destroy what I'm working so hard to mend.<BR>He sat silent on the line for a minute....and said....I wish I had someone to love me like that......your H is stupid for not wanting to be with you.<BR>It felt good to hear that...but I truly love my husband and would much rather hear him say at least a little something about wanting to come home and be with us.....than what his friend said to me.

Amen...<P>Orchid, a short 'empathy' poem for you....<P>I long to be kissed, not just kiss.<P>I long to be hugged, not just hug.<P>I long to be wanted, not just want.<P>I long to be needed, not just need.<P>I long to be loved, not just love.<P>Don't make me wait too long....<P><BR>Cali

Miss Priss<BR>Very impressed yes indeed very impressed.<BR>People keep saying to me if you take your W back after all she has done you are a bigger person than I. But I could never explain to them why I would even consider such a thing, so I just didn't answer their comments. <BR> Your reply just gave me the answer I was looking for, just because, I can't explain it, it is just love. It is so hard for those who are not going through this to understand how you could take them back. In some ways it is easy.<P>deeplyinlove

Hi Orchid,<P>You deserve to be swept off your feet.<P>Just wanted to say hi.<P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

L - if we can imagine it, it can happen. Thanks for your kind words on my post.<P>Miss Priss - a very beautiful statement.<P>WAT

Cali:<P>I am in a place right now where your "emapthy poem" hit me just right. I have copied it and may use it with my W. Thanks!<P>Orchid:<P>I hear you, girl...someon with your care and compassion *does* deserve some sweeping---no broom involved <P>Hang in there all...I'm trying... <P>

<<<ORCHID>>>><P>You do deserve to be swept off your feet, and Faith is right, you are loved by many, many people, it's the rejection that hurts the most.<P>LOL,<BR>HbH

<B><BR>This is just the thought of a distraught and currently unloved person. </B><P>No, no! You are going about this all wrong!! I don't believe for ONE MINUTE that your H (or mine) doesn't "love me" anymore. If that were true, WHAT in the world would they come back for?!?! They would just move on to the NEXT relationship when this alien abduction dumps them back on Planet Earth.<P>No, better to believe (er...KNOW) that they truly DO love you, they don't know WHY they did what they did, they say really - REALLY stupid stuff to try to explain why they did what they did...and the emotional rollercoaster that THEY get on makes them dizzier than the one they put US on!!!<P>Soooo, with that in mind, think instead that you ARE still loved by the one YOU love!! You ARE lovable!! They just need to have their eyes opened, and for now, their "sickness" has closed their eyes to that fact, and made them believe a BIG, FAT LIE(that they love OP) YUCK.<P>And anyway, even it that's not true, WE all love ya!!! <P>Lupo

Orchid:<P>I sure know how you feel. This made me think of how I've been swept under the carpet. Just under here hanging out with the dust bunnies. Only thing is the dust bunnies belong....I don't. I feel like a dust bunny that has been swept around with the broom and sucked up with the vacuum cleaner. <P>I know "swept off my feet" has a different meaning, but I think my feet have been swept right out from under me. <P>Your not a dust bunnie...your an EVERREADY RABBIT...just keep going!<P>Hang in there. There is still hope, I hope the best for you. You deserve better. <P>lupolady:<P><B>I don't believe for ONE MINUTE that your H (or mine) doesn't "love me" anymore. If that were true, WHAT in the world would they come back for?!?! They would just move on to the NEXT relationship when this alien abduction dumps them back on Planet Earth.</B><P>This hit me, since I find myself applying this to my situation. "doesn't love me anymore" "If that were true, WHAT in the world they come back for" "They would just move to the NEXT relationship". Unfortunately, this seems to be my case (in 5 days it will be 1 year) I'm still counting and he's still with OW.<P>I feel you have more hope than I. I think you have more possibilities of working out your marriages than I. I feel for all of you. I wish the best in success of saving your marriages. I keep think...maybe I should go to Divorcing/Divorced and post??? We are not divorcing yet, but it appears to be inevitable. <P>You have my sincere and best wishes at heart.<BR>((((((((HUGS))))))))<BR><p>[This message has been edited by Hurtwife (edited July 13, 2001).]

Thanks, Lupo! That woke me up. I was sitting here feeling sorry for myself reading all the stuff here... I am out of town without my H - we've always traveled together - Imiss him sooooo much. I read the other post about the "Will the lies ever stop " and it hurt so bad.... You are right! I know he still loves me. He says he doesn't remember, butI remember how much he loved, and I believe God will show him the memories and a vision for it to be true again. <P>------------------<BR>Faith1<P>"Then Jesus answered, 'Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.'"<BR>Matt 15:28

To all that deserve to be swept off your feet...<P>You are the sunshine in the smile of your children...<BR>You are still the wonderful memories and thoughts of your H/W...<BR>It is because of you that their life is a better place today than before they met you...(and it is)...<BR>Your strength, beauty and love are unmatched in this life...<BR>I admire your thoughts and words day after day as you struggle to hold on for dear life...<BR>Know your beauty, know your love...<BR>No matter how difficult the struggle...<BR>No matter how far off the dream...<BR>You deserve the best life has to offer...<BR>Don't settle...Don't ever ever settle...<BR>You will be held...in the arms of one that loves you...<BR>You will be kissed...by the lips of the one that cherishes you...<BR>You will be loved...just as you have dreamed and wished...<BR>Love just is....and will be again...<P>Have a great day....you deserve it...<P>Trueheart<BR>