Hi, <P>I just wanted to thak everyone for the great advice and support I have gotten since I came here. <P>This is the worst thing I have ever been had to go thru. <P>OW came into the office after I left for my therapy session wed & my friend who works with me said she gave H a little look. Sort of like mischevious and evil. H was in his office and she couldn't see the look on his face. Another co-worker who was in the office with H said H didn't look at her any special way. But the other co-worker is a young guy. He may not have noticed. You know women are better at picking up on those things than men. <P>UNLESS she is still intrested in him and him not so much in her. Why can't she just go AWAY she has already had 3 husbands of her own. Why is she trying to take mine??????<P>I have never done anything to her. <P>Last night H never called me at work so I drove to her house on my break to spy, at least he wasn't there. <BR>She was there and her kids. <P>This morning he said he fell asleep on the couch and that is why he didn't call. He was too sleepy when he got off the couch and crawled into bed. <P>He did say he was happy and impressed I didn't make a big deal about the missing phone call, and checking up on him. <BR>I just said that I missed hearing his voice at work last night. Glad he doesn't know I was spying. <P>Things just don't seem right. I still suspect he has contact with her other than at work. Maybe not. I don't know. <P>Last night I sat at work crying(alone). I just can't imagine that he could even be thinking of throwing away the 7 years we have together(6 married 1 before)for this little 3x divorced, 12 years older than him troll that he could ONLY have had a relationship with for 90 days at the most. <P>What is tha matter with him? <P>I'm so sad and unhappy. I just know if doesn't call me at work tonight it will be another night of feeling horrible and crying. <P>I really, really, really hate this. <P>I love my H so much. Now I know what it means to "love someone so much it hurts".<P>I just want to love him and be loved by him. <P>It's not to much to ask. <P>I also want her to get FIRED or die in some horrible accident. (well at least fired)<P>I'm still doing plan A, tho it seems hopeless. <BR>

Hi S&C,<P>Was that fired or fried? Hm...... You are right about the this being one of the worst things we can go through. Oh there are worse but this is a doozy. <P>H needs to get tired of the tramp. That is the hard part for us because it is 'easy' for us to be tired of the tramp. But something strong is ignited and your H has to put out that smoldering flame. <P>Consider the point that OW will continue to see your H as a challenge. Some women just get their kicks that way. <P>You are better than that. Let him see that. <P>Take Care,<BR>L.<BR>

Thanks Orchid, <P>You always make me feel better. <P>I'm just waiting for her to turn into the evil little troll I know she can be and drive him back to me. <P>Meanwhile I am being so nice,caring,mild mannered,gentle,supportive,respectful,cooperative etc so that when she turns on him, he will realize how great it is with me. <P><BR>When all I really want to do is yell, cry and smack him upside the head, I won't plan A<P>Plan A<BR>Plan A<BR>Plan A<P>I'm actually VERY proud of mysel for my plan A and NOT LB'ing. Those are actually BIG accomplishments for me as a person. <P>This place helps SOOO much. <P>Without what I have learned here I would be actiong the troll and driving him to her. YIKES!!!!<P>I'm so glad to have found this place. <BR>

S & C,<BR>I know. . .it does suck doesn't it? But you're already feeling proud of yourself! I can totally relate to the point you made about how before you would have been LB'ing all over the place & driving him to her. Your Plan A is working! (At least for you, and that's mostly what Plan A is about anyhow. . .making you a better you, for you, with the hope attached that it will also affect your H).<P>Loved his response to you not making a big deal about the missed phone call. . . and I LOVED your response to him even better!!! Keep up the good work, and remember, all your LB's belong here!