here you go resilient...a bump to the top for you!!<P>Trueheart

BUMPING FOR EVERYONE!!! <BR>

BUMPING AGAIN

I was asked to bump this as we have some new BS/WS here and it was thought it could help. <P>Thanks!! <P>*Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.*<P>Trueheart

Trueheart, How I dream that my H will transform...today, only a glimmer of hope remains. My H has not left YET but has found an apartment that he believes he will move to for October 1st. Do you think giving him this letter now is an LB? Also, how long were you gone before coming back? Do you feel it's a necessary step to recovery?<P>Thank-you for being here. It's my lifeline.

T..<P>I am far from a lifeline, but thanks for your belief in me. I, myself, never had to leave, but for some it does seem a necessary step for different reasons. Some need to feel the sting of what life without the Spouse and family is like? Some need to see OP for who they really are and find out it isnt all roses? Some just need time to gather their thoughts and feelings? I am not sure of your H's needs at this time, but if he is hellbent on leaving, nothing you can do will stop him. He may just be confused. <P>I wrote this letter to help WS (and BS) realize that they are not alone and others do understand and respect how they feel. I wrote it to let them know it is not hopeless and they can fix things, if they truly wish to. Give him a copy of the letter...if he is leaving, what can it hurt? Dont shove it down his throat, but leave it for him to make the decision to take the step to read it. Tell him you are leaving it for him to help him, not judge him. Tell him you love him and you hope it helps him to realize somethings. <P>Best of luck!!<BR>*Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.*<P>Trueheart

Trueheart, sorry for the questions but your answers help me. How long were you in the fog? What made you "wake up"? Did you think you were going to leave or had you made a decision to stay regardless?

T..<P>My fog lifted pretty much right away. I was one of the lucky WS, if there is such a thing. I realized the pain, hurt, and devastation I caused, realized the A was emotional in nature, and felt like I had killed someone/something I cherished. I set out right away to make things right, understand what I did, why I did it...and worked my A$$ off to show how sorry I was. There are many WS here that never have the fog lift, and that is the sad part.<P>Trueheart

^^^^ for a new person that asked... <P>Hope I can help!!

Bump for new WS that need some encouragement.

Trueheart, your letter is so true. It's amazing how each WS thinks thier A is totally unique and no one else can understand their feelings. In fact thier A is the one that was truly meant to be. God pointed them in that direction, otherwise how could they feel so spiritually connected and complete with the OW/OM. I wish I could get my spouse to read this, but he may think of it as a major LB. You know what, though? It's OK if he doesn't read it. The post has helped me tremendously. The only person I have complete control over is me, and the only one I can truly change is me. So I'm trying to change my set of beliefs, to be a true friend to my husband. It is easy to love him when he is caring and loving. It is hardest when he is in the fog, but this is when he needs love the most, right? It is so easy to say, and so hard to do. But I am trying.<BR>Thank you for taking the time and making the effort. You are helping so many of us, giving us hope.

wannabe...<P>Just wanted to say thanks for reading and see if it helped? Did he read it? Glad I could help you...hope it helps some others.<P>*Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.*<P>Trueheart

prolly time to bring this back up to the top....

Thanks Faith!! Nice to be brought to the top!! [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] Hope it can help!!

Trueheart,<P>Have you ever given thought to being a motivational speaker? Your postings are so uplifting and encouraging! I spent one day just searching for everything you've written and was very encouraged that this whole mess will eventually get better!<P>Thanks!!!<BR>Le

Thanks Moving, <P>That is quite the compliment!!! Actually, at one time, I did think about it. I was just to scared to take the leap into working for myself, but I have always wanted to...alas...another dream that remains undaunted! I guess this forum will have to suffice! But thanks for the kudos!!<P>And, BTW, it will get better..one way or another!!! The key is YOU!!<P>*Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.*<P>Trueheart

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Good morning, trueheart [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] It's nice to see you 'out and about' today.<p>- Freddy

Freddy, <p>Thanks!! Sorry for the late response. Been a hectic day!!<p>Have a great day and weekend!!<p>Trueheart

Up!!!!!!!!!!!