Trueheart,

I want you to know that everything you said was right on the money...I was there with you, heard those things, said those things, "felt" those things. Lies, Lies, Lies...I still have trouble believing how I managed to hurt the one person who truly loved me the way that I did. I can also only pray that the outcome of your situation can be mirrored in my life. I wait, holding on to the hope. I plan on emailing you directly so that perhaps you can tell me more about how your recovery went. I just know that capturing your emotion, my emotions the way you have, gives me great hope for a future with the one woman who knows me better than anyone. The one woman who I should have been cherishing and loving. The one woman who completes me.
Thank you for those words...I came out of the fog just in time. Its a sad place right now, but I can see clearly, think clearly, and even though my wife doesn't want me back right now, I like it much better here, honest, true, but sad than back there, lieing and believing I was happy.

^^^^ Have a great day!!! [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img]

Hi Trueheart. <p>How are you doing? It's been a long time since we chatted here. I often think of you and am eternally grateful for all your help. Now I use this thread again and have sent it to another new poster and male WS who needs our help. <p>Hope you are doing ok. Well wishes to you and your family. <p>Take Care,
L.

Morning Orchid...<p>Thanks for keeping my post alive and using it to continue helping others. I am alive... [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] I lurk here often, but don't post much anymore. My job keeps me very busy and, like others before me, I found myself becoming very addicted and dependent on MB, so felt I needed a break, of sorts. I do tend to check up on "old friends" alot and still seek to read advice and words of wisdom, as they do help. I still lurk, just remain quiet these days, and I hope that all are finding some peace, no matter how there relationships turn out. I hope that everyone finds some magic, some light, some love, and hope during these holidays. My best to all of you....May you be as happy as you deserve to be, as you choose to be...<p>*Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.*<p>Trueheart

bump up for some new folks [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Bumpin up for a couple of new WS!! Hang on tight!!

I'm printing off right now for my WS who is very confused. This might just be my salvation. What a beautiful piece of literature. Thank you.

just sending up again

What a truly great letter, I hope everyone reads it WS and BS. It is truly Inspirational.

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Trueheart,
Thank you for your awsome words. I dont know, dont think my WW will read it, but I think Ill print it and leave it around.
I do have a question for you I know you said your fog lifted almost right away, but how long was your A? Just wondering for folks who's WS' have been in the fog a long time. ( I guess my WW hasnt been for very long (about a year) though it seems like an eternity.)

bumping back up!!<p>Just an FYI.... Trueheart doesn't post much anymore, and MAY lurk from time to time, but hasn't been around much. You can search through his posts and see lots of great thoughts from a former WS perspective.

Bumping back up. Thank you Trueheart for your honesty and desire to help other WS find their way out of the fog. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

TrueHeart,<p>As the BW with a WH at this time. I have never in my life been so "TOUCHED" to read something so honest! I have printed this for me and I copied, pasted it and e-mailed it to my WH.<p>To hear this through the eyes of the "cheater" or WH........ripped my heart apart.......how could a BS (wife) not forgive after reading this?????<p>I love my WH with all my heart, love him enough to forgive and rebuild......<p>I am in PLAN B but could not resist sending this to him.....By the grace of GOD, I hope he takes the time to read it and is able to understand in spite of his current "FOG".<p>GOD BLESS YOU and "THANK YOU!"<p>BL

So would you advise sending this to a WS who is still living with OW ND IN A FOG BUT WITH WHOM YOU ARE STILL ON VERY FRIENDLY TERMS AND who you send inspirational cards to occasionally. Jante

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by jante:
<strong>So would you advise sending this to a WS who is still living with OW ND IN A FOG BUT WITH WHOM YOU ARE STILL ON VERY FRIENDLY TERMS AND who you send inspirational cards to occasionally. Jante</strong><hr></blockquote><p>I did. In October. <p>I never knew if it had any impact on him. He never said. I never asked.<p>The fog is VERY thick and VERY powerful on the thinking process of the alien being who has been "enmeshed" in it. I would say don't waste your time.<p>My sig line tells the "rest of my story."

Just to pass along a message... I hear from Trueheart occasionally and he said to tell everyone HELLO!!!!<p>jante, I think it would be ok to send it to him, since you normally send him stuff and he's not irritated by that... just don't expect any miraculous response from him.

When I had just filed for "D" from my 1st husband, it was my "WH" now, that told me this:<p>Follow your heart and do everything that you feel you need to do so if it doesn't work out......you can live with it...<p>I "MELTED" when he told me that and it is "HIS OWN ADVICE" that I followed. This is my/our marriage and what do I have to lose? TrueHearts letter is my "last e-mail" to my husband......I am leaving it in GOD'S hands to encourage my "WH" to read it......

Thanks everyone who replied as you say there is nothing to lose when you ahve already lost it and so I will copy and send it. Jante

Trueheart, <p>If you had a dollar for everytime this letter is read or sent, you'd probably be rich. Well you have certainly helped many of us and I just want to let you know that this letter is still working. <p>Take Care,
L.