LONG STORY SHORT--SEPERATED FOR 6 MONTHS D-DAY 2 WEEKS INTO SEPERATION. HE SAID HE LEFT BECAUSE OF HER. WE DID NOT SPEAK FOR THOSE 6 MONTHS EXCEPT IF IT INVOLVED OUR 2 SONS OR MONEY MATTERS.<BR> <BR> WE FINALLY HAD A LONG TALK ON TUESDAY.IT WAS A CALM AND CONTROLED TALK. HE DOES NOT WANT A D(SO I WILL STILL HAVE MEDICAL BENIFITS). HE LOVES THE OW BUT STILL CARES FOR ME. HE THOUGHT ABOUT COMING HOME BUT THINGS WOULD NEVER BE THE SAME. HE BELIEVES HE DID THE RIGHT THING IN LEAVING BECAUSE EVERYONE WAS UNHAPPY AT HOME WITH THE TENSION ALL AROUND.<BR> <BR> I TOLD HIM THAT I DO STILL LOVE HIM AND I WANTED TO SEE IF MARRIAGE WAS WORTH SAVING BUT COULD NOT DO IT ALONE. NO RESPONSE FROM H. I SAID "OUR MARRIAGE WOULD NEVER BE THE SAME BUT IT COULD BE MUCH BETTER WITH HEALING, HARD WORK AND TIME AND I AM WILLING TO DO SO."<BR> <BR> H IS TAKING OUR SONS 7 & 9 AWAY FOR THE WEEKEND WITH OW AND HER 3YR OLD SON. H SAID THEY WERE ALL STAYING IN THE SAME HOTEL ROOM. I TOLD HIM I WOULD NOT STAND FOR THAT, YOU ARE OUR SONS ROLE MODEL AND IT IS MORALLY WRONG. I ASKED HIM YESTERDAY ABOUT THE SLEEPING ARRANGEMENTS FOR THE WEEKEND AND HE SAID THERE WILL BE 2 SEPERATE ROOMS.(I REALLY CAN'T BELIEVE HE RESPECTED MY WISHES)<P> H ALSO SAID THAT IF HE COULD TAKE THE HURT AWAY FROM ME HE WOULD. (WE ALL KNOW HOW THAT CAN BE DONE DON'T WE). HE ALSO APOLIGIZED FOR HOW THE AFFAIR OR IN HIS WORDS RELATIONSHIP HAPPENED. NOT THAT IT HAPPENED BUT HOW IT HAPPENED.<P> NOW WHEN I ASKED HIM IF SHE IS THE ONE HE WANTS TO SPEND THE REST OF HIS LIFE WITH HE SAID "I DON'T KNOW." HE HAS KNOWN HER FOR 2 YEARS PRIOR TO THE AFFAIR THAT HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR 1 YEAR.<P> I PLAN ON TRYING TO PLAN A AND SEE WHERE THAT GOES. MY QUESTIONS IS DO YOU THINK THAT THE FOG MY BE LIFTING OR WHAT? AND ANY IDEAS ON HOW TO PLAN A WHILE BEING SEPERATED WE ARE STILL UNCOMFORTABLE AROUND EACH OTHER.ANY IDEAS WOULD BE GREAT.<P><BR> THANKS AND I'M READY, I THINK,TO BOARD THE PLAN A EXPRESS. <BR>