Hi MnM. I'm so sorry for the pain you're going through. Big Hugs!! You're right your H is a big a**!! Neither you or your kids deserve any of this. Sounds as though he not only has a drinking problem but also issues with control. IMO you need to move on for you and the kids don't let him destroy you any more than he already has. Your a good person and truly deserve to be treated as such. You are in my thoughts and prayers!! Hang in there.<BR>Cybil