I was supposed to go to Hawaii on my honeymoon. We ended up not able to have one.. but I will go.. I am saving!! I 'm thinking about a cruise?<BR>Thanks T for reading my post

Cofwill, seperating by itself won't work..you tried that before...how about cancelling all the credit cards and enrolling both of you in crdit counselling?

T,<BR> Thanks for the advice. I am going to enter the credit counseling thing where they cobine them and lower the interest and u make one payment. Ill have everything payed off in 5 years (kinda like a car payment). All except me school loans that is.<P> My hangup is that he has his own cards and he is using mine ruining my credit. I helped him payoff all his old bad credit stuff to make his betterso we could have a house some day, and he ends up making mine suffer. <P>I dont use them unless an emergency. We have had a time since we got married. I was injured 3 times and out of a job. so things got prety tight, but even though we had enough money for rent and food, he was using my card to go golfing and stuff we couldnt afford every week. now i am working and he isnt and he still feels he has the right to take them and spend money we cant afford. <P>I felt guilty buying underware, and I found out he spent $245$ at rick's ranchware to go to a concert (the tickets were free), I found it on my statement. So why do I feel so guilty for buying underware.. ?????

Hi Cofwill,<P>I setup your thread. Step over there and let us help you. What we need is a bit of background or your story. <P>L.

u set up my thread ...??? how do i get to u????? <BR>how do i step over there?

NO WAY!!!!<P>I lived at Hooluu, right off Hoolaulea!!! <P>Sometimes I cry for Hawaii--I miss running on the path along Pearl Harbor. Hubby and I used to jog up to the Arizona Memorial and back. He would run really slow, to help me recover from giving birth to our baby. We were really out-doorsy people then, we used to hike up Kole Kole Pass at Schofield Barracks and hike up to Kaena point to watch the whales. I was never much of a water person, in that I can't swim too well, but I love the ocean so much, (if that makes sense.) I remember going fishing once when I was pregnant, at Kaneohe--we weren't catching anything, so we just decided to go into the water and swim around a little. The water was warmer than the air and it seems that we just spent all day playing in the waves. Our little boy was born at Tripler--one of the best days of my life. <P>It hurts so bad when my husband says "we have no happy memories to look back on, that's why I had an affair." I was !so! happy. . .and I can't understand it! Why does he say there were no happy times?<P>Orchid, Twyla--it is unfortunate that a website like this has brought us together to share our stories. I hope so much that the future is so much happier for all of us.<P>As for Japanese, Okinawan. . .no, I don't speak either. (I speak Korean.) However, I find that the Okinawan people are so kind and peaceful that it is easy to communicate with them. I have a lot of wonderful friends here. I haven't been here that long. . .I came here with my husband in 1999 and went back to the states after I discovered his affair(s). . . I just returned this March to find my house in shambles. Talk about depressing!<P>Today--I was talking to an American man who is married to an Okinawan woman--he was telling me that it is acceptable and even encouraged for men here to have a mistress. I couldn't believe that. Is that true, I wonder. I couldn't image any society where adultery is a norm--it is dehumanizing and destructive to families--and as we all, so painful for the BS. I don't know.<P>Gushiken, I have not heard that name, but I guess that's not unusual. It seems that Japan names are very, very diverse. Not many are the same--it could be common.<P>Yes, the beaches here are pretty nice, but very very rocky, lot's of coral, really sea-weedy and mossy. And no matter where you are from, the sun is absolutely scorching. Even I have to get at least 15 block if I don't want to get fried, and I am pretty dark.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Orchid:<BR><B>Hi Cofwill,<P>I setup your thread. Step over there and let us help you. What we need is a bit of background or your story. <P>L. </B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>how do i do it orchid?????????

hehehe..the Pearl Harbor path!! I wish I had a quarter for every mile of it I pounded trying to run away from his A!!!I lost 20 lbs on that path!...you should see the beautiful park they built right next to McGrew Point..the HOURS I spent journalling there over looking Pearl Harbor.<BR>Ahhh such memories...as I recall, thats where I met him and gave him Plan B letter too. It's funny, but as depressing as all of that should be, it's not...it's when I turned my life around!<BR>T

HELLO.. HELP ME

Dear Cofwill,<P>Here is the link to your thread. <P> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/011347.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/011347.html</A> <P>Just click on this. You will see the name of it at the top. The next time you are on the menu screen look for that thread name. <P>L.

Cofwill,<P>Sorry that took so long. The site gets very slow sometimes and I temporarily got locked out. The girls weren't ignoring you, I was just having trouble getting through. <P>Take care, <BR>L.<BR>

Hey Twyla and Berzini, <P>Too bad we couldn't get a Hawaii reunion. Mrs. O, Leilana and who knows who else is there. However that A virus travels it sure covers some air. <P>You know B, that statement about ok for the guy to have an A. That is one lousy excuse. Used all over the world. We have Cambodian men here who say it is ok to have multiple families. Their wives keep their maiden name to be able to collect American welfare and then the men go and make other families. How vile!!! My H used to get real angry about that and now look at him. <P>Accepted custom or not, it is still wrong. Wrong, wrong, wrong!!! So how are you doing now? I remember reading some of your posts earlier this year. You have been posting for quite a while? Gotta go do my research. <P>Twyla, are you guys back together? Can't remember, this old brain is losing it. <P>Listen, it was sure nice to visit with you tonight. Not sure where the guy is who started this thread. I think H2U went to bed already. But I sure had fun. <P>Thanks to all,<P>L. <BR>

hehe... I pass out for a few.. and you all havin a blast..<P>Get this.. I lived in the 4 story apartments right there in Aiea.. in the store parking lot.. for 1 year when I was stationed at camp smith. We lived on the second floor and later moved upstairs to the fourth.. a promotion in life.. Now we could see the harbor everynight.<P>When I finally got family houseing...we lived on Lanakila Place on the penninsula at PC housing.. Lived at that mickydees with the conveyor belt delivery. I worked at manana housing for nearly 3 years I was there, and camp smith. We left there in 95 and my passion for life stayed windward.. and I never found it again. <P>I was responsible for the american flag that flies at night there at Bordelon field 24 hours a day... My youngest was born in tripler, my 8 year old was born near eva beach in the 'new' hospital.<P>talk about a small world.. <P>------------------<BR>Husband2You<BR>*****<BR>Don't make me promises <BR>Baby you never did know how to keep them well <BR>I've had the rest of you <BR>Now I want the best of you <BR>It's time for show and tell<P>'All or Nothing' © 2001 O-Town

figures... I pass out.. and wake up... to you girls posting.. and then I respond and poof your gone :*(

yeah, I am babysitting, so I too am pau. . .<P>H2U--you are a Marine, maybe you can share some perspective on this psychosis called "devil dawg!" UGH!!!!

What perspective were you thinking? I can give you the whole angle... Which way do you want me to come by.. land, sea or air? <eg><P>Semper Fi

H2U, <P>No kidding. Hey, you really gotta get some rest. Check it out tomorrow, Indecision is a new poster from Hawaii. What a night. <P>Well, I have to get some sleep. Gonna have some plate lunch tomorrow. YUM!!!! <P>Thanks for this tread, it was fun and we even helped a new one!!! <P><BR>L. <BR>ps: next time you want to share a cold one make sure there is some poki to go with it. <p>[This message has been edited by Orchid (edited August 04, 2001).]

they finally finished H3 huh? Wish I could have driven on it once. I bet it is beautiful.. So how many people tallied out the death toll when that thing was done? I had a friend who worked on it and they had something like 9 deaths from start to that point in 94? <P>Spooky if you ask me

Orchid.. <P>My message in a bottle to you.. how else could I have described it... unless I lived it... <P>Shaka <P>Sweet dreams.. <P>------------------<BR>Husband2You<BR>*****<BR>Don't make me promises <BR>Baby you never did know how to keep them well <BR>I've had the rest of you <BR>Now I want the best of you <BR>It's time for show and tell<P>'All or Nothing' © 2001 O-Town

H2u, <P>You are right. <P>Thanks and good night. <P>L. <BR>