I am still in training...but he called me and we met for lunch with the boys...the boys have been missing me as I have been gone from 7-5 each day...<P>While talking to me he told me that he was moving the rest of his stuff to his friend's house...(a good friend that I know as well...the friend has also told me that he is pulling for us and will 'talk' to H whenever he can...)<P>But, his moving again proves my signature statement #3..Don't make assumptions..I was thinking that we were doing so well... It hurts, but not as much...I was getting used to sleeping w/ someone again ...regular sex and all that...and it's not like he really 'came' back...he never has really left...just sleeps somewhere else.<P>Can someone teach me the word b-o-u-n-d-a-r-i-e-s? I can say it; I can spell it...but apparantly I have no idea of the real meaning...for me...<P>My first instinct was to take off my rings, but I'll probably put them back on again.<P>I am just so discouraged....and tired...<P>Cali<P>------------------<BR><I>Live Impeccably In Your Word.<BR>Don't Take Anything Personally.<BR>Make No Assumptions.<BR>Do Your Best Always. </I>

(((Cali))) We are here for you. I am praying for you. I am praying for your H. I wish there was more I could say.

Oh Cali. You are so much further along that so many! Hang in there girl. You've really been an inspiration to me and others here... Keep doing your best.<P>zen

I'm so sorry, hon. hugggzzzzzzzzz<P>Keep your rings on, ok?<P>Help me - I'm a little confused. I thought things were going better - your trip and everything. Why is he leaving? What has he said?<P>You've been such an inspiration here. I know you are tired. And rightfully so.

Cali,<P>I don't know what to say to you except that we are here for you. Hopefully your H will come to his sense some time soon.<P>Are you going to continue a Plan A? or go to Plan B? Do you know yet?<P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

My Dear Cali,<P>I am sorry for this step backwards. Is he going to gather his thoughts? I am sorry for not keeping up as well as I should (minor details on my side). <P>Keep posting dear. You know the routine. Vent and let us support you as much as we can and you need. You have my number. Call ok?<P>L.

I can't talk much...or I'll get caught off task ...<P>We, I think...no assumptions...that we have made progress...but he feels he needs to be away from me to make decisions and change himself...he still feels strongly that he can't do so around me...<P>He still feels strongly that he doesn't want to be married...<P>What's worse is I'm in training and I want to cry...but I CAN'T!!!<P>Cali

I'll cry for you ok? Here I go.... You will be all red-nosed and puffy faced in just a few minutes, then you will feel better. Wait. I'll be red-nosed and puffy-faced, but you'll feel better. That way, no one will know. ok? <P>hugggggzzzzzz.... <P>tell us about it later, ok? we'll be here. <P>------------------<BR>Faith1<P>"Then Jesus answered, 'Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.'"<BR>Matt 15:28

Hi Cali. I am here. I am so sorry for your pain. I am freaking out tonight from my own problems. If you are around, I will be up ALL night... No sleep for me.<P>Leave the rings on if you can, I took mine off the night my husband told me about the PA.<P><<<<<hugs>>>><BR>HbH

Cali,<P>Don't freak out. Your marriage is not over. Keep your rings on. Please.<P>Your H will be in a safe place. You have made so much progress in the last couple of weeks. Both for your marriage and for you. You have given your H so much to think about that he probably can't get you out of his mind if he tried right now. I bet he has "The History of Cali" on his bedside table. <P>I don't know how you stop expecting, but you need to. I have no experience to offer here. <P>We're all hurting for you and wishing you the best. <P>--Jeffers<BR>