I have been reading through the post for awhile now and have come across some very strange post from carolBo, as a new comer I must say it is very depressing to read these. i realize that people will write what they feel and they have that right but I and I'm sure many other newcomers, are very hopeful that our marriages will work out. And are seeking advice from more experienced members and let me say you are all wonderful and full of hope, and support, but the one and I say one because she is the only one I have come across with such negativity. It will not stop me from posting because I have recieved some great advice and It has helped me already in my situation. I am not sure what can be done about these people,I hope she finds some happiness she seems miserable Thanks for listening Sally

Let's hope that her negative posts are due to her having a very bad day. Hey, CarolBo....if you're reading this post, lighten up!<P>------------------<BR><B>Time heals all wounds as long as you DON'T pick at them!</B>

I think it is unfair to call a member out like this just because you don't like her posts.<P>If you feel she or anyone else is not following board rules email the moderator they are there for helping us sort this out. Just a thought...<P>This kind of talk and interaction only brings the board down more.

Well, CarolBo's post worried me. I did some research and here is what I found. My system has been going down so all the threads I found need to be recreated and I will if necessary but I will just share what I have read. <P>I will keep this as factual as possible, you come to your own conclusions:<P>CarolBo's profile is from the Netherlands, her field is children's entertainment, she registered 6/6/01. Her profile states 161 posts over many sites at MB. <P>In her comments (from 6/21/01) she states that she is in agreement with MB info, even posted a few threads. She later states that she is an internet counselor and encouraged others to e-mail her, she even promoted pastorial service counseling (none of this mb related). She mentioned that she had done some p/i work in Africa (not necesarily related to infidelity). She posted on an 8/11/01 thread what appears to be her story. It is told in bits and pieces about how her H is having an open relationship right in front of her with an OW and she feels helpless what to do about it. <P>Then came the posts today to more than one individual (GQII and the Low cost dating site) she basically encouraged married people to date &/or leave their mates. <P>In a prior post she even 'yelled' at a poster who was seeking support. Claiming the poster was not making herself clear. It was clear to me. <P>******************************************************<P>Now should we be concerned? Yes. Carol, you had good posts in the past, you have questionable posts now. What is happening to you? You sound like you have anger and taking it out on other's threads. This is not recommended. If you have something to say, then post your own thread and let us respond directly to you. <P>Are you really in line with saving your marriage? Would you like to become a better person? Why are you here? <P>These questions are not meant to hurt, they are meant to help us understand how we may be able to help you. This site is a support site for many, the last thing we need is for more anomosity. <P>If you need to vent, then go ahead but do it on your own thread. Otherwise, we might misunderstand your intentions. <P>OK?<P>L.

Orchid,<P>I did the same research and found the same thing about her. There is a very stark and concerning difference between her earlier posts and the recent ones. <P>It makes me wonder what has happened in her life. <P>CarolBo, please let us know what's up. There is obviously a problem. <P>Z<P><P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

ok im going out on a limb here... i am the one that CarolBo was saying didnt make her self clear..... however i didnt take offense seeing that she was from the netherlands i just assumed my english was too.....slangy ...for her<BR>however the rest of her reply did in fact pi$$ me off.<BR>reading it i though whats the mattter with this woman so I too went and searched her posts to see if this woman was in the right frame of mind.<BR>and frankly without going into detail about how i came to my conclusion ...i dont think she is.<P>SadSally hey dont worry about people that post like this as a matter of fact dont give her the time of day.... she isnt the first and probrably wont be the last either.. im assuming you missed the last bout of nasty posts by realitycheck and others like her. notice how they fade off when the get ignored .... is a good thing dont stress about it.<BR>take care all<P><BR>

I agree, her recent posts have been very odd, esp. for a marriagebuilding site. CarolBo, if you are there, what has happened???<P>