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Is that good or bad? And how did I get from Jr. Member to Member anyways?<P>(wishin none of you were here either...oh, you know what I mean .. I meant wish there wasn't even a need for this forum)...<P>Deb<BR>
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You are at 110 posts. You have been a member since your 33rd post. <P>belated congratulations!<P>L.
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Wow, I've been a "member" for the last 70 posts I've made? Is that a good thing? Maybe it is good that I had no idea that I have made that many posts! thanks for the congrats but I still wish I wasn't here... I'm a MEMBER!!!
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The day I turned into a member I posted the same type question. You know I was very downtrodden at that time. Well when I realized(or it was pointed out to me that I was a member)it was a very happy thing for me. I mean really happy. It made me feel like I belonged to a special group of people, and I had not felt even a little special in a very long time.<P> I congratulate you as well. Not that it really makes a big difference when you do sit back a think about where you are at. But take one thing to heart, whether you are a member or a jr member does not matter. When you realize the kind of people you are hanging out with you will know that you are blessed. Even if it is a MB site. You do not have to be in a marriage where an A is/has taken place to use the tools outlined here, or interact with the people.<P> jd
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Everyone here has helped me keep my sanity (well except for snl but that's another story). Thanks for the support. Now if my H would only have sex with me.... And dog gone it, I am the epitome of wifedome. Argg. I work full time, have three kids, keep the house clean, cook dinner... would love to satisfy him in bed if he ever CAME to bed... arg. just venting. He's the WS but I feel I'm the one working on everything. Well, atleast he's home, just not in bed...<BR>
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Ouch!!! I know how you are feeling. With-holding sex is a whole nother form of torture for us BS. I could tell you stories, but alas this is probably not the place for that.<P> Just know that I know how you feel.<P> jd
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Thanks for the support. Just curious...are you the ws or bs? I tried looking up your previous posts but they have all been deleted.
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Not all deleted just some of the first ones. There were people close to my situation lurking the boards trying to cause trouble. So I got rid of the more emotional stuff I first posted.<P> And, I am the BS. Nice to meet ya.<P> jd
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Hi Eyesewideopen,<P>I too just realized that I had made "member" status. Today, 6 days into this support group, I went from jr. to member. This place has been a Godsend for me. I am a WS.<BR>Good luck to you. I believe you are in the right place, as am I.<P> <p>[This message has been edited by Bad Hubby (edited September 07, 2001).]
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jdmac1 - I just finally figured out that you are the male BS. Finally found a post that wasn't edited (I'm not real patient) I think I sent my email out their if you want to talk.<P>
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Thanks for replying. I think I am starting to get confused with these computer names. At any rate, thanks for responding but I think I just got after you about something so maybe you won't want to talk to me. Or maybe that was the incredibly wise message that I wrote that just disappeared (arg).
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Dear eyes,<BR>Oh, you have me cracking up with everything you have said here, esp. the part about keeping your sanity and where you lost your post. OH NOOOO! ROTFL! Isn't that too frustrating when you pour out your guts and then your system crashes and you lose all your hard work?! That happens to me a lot on weekends so I mostly READ on weekends... it's safer!<P>Well, thanks for all the laughs. I pray that things will get easier for you at home with all your responsibilities. Will pray for God to intervene soon with a miracle just for you. It's nice that you can see a bright spot in the midst of all the pain. & you're so right, at least he's home...
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Deb - quality, not quantity - you started posting months before I did. You've been a "member" for a long time.<P>I wish Orchid hadn't spilled the beans with the REAL criteria. I'd been telling people that you have to post the correct tricky sequence of smiley faces in order to get there.<P>WAT
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LOL WAT,<P> Hey man, you are getting that sense of humor back. You are gonna get through this. <BR>
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eyeswideopen,<BR>I'm with you on the no-sex thing. I'm also the BS, doing EVERYTHING I can to deposit the love units. After a while, you want the WS to throw you a friggin bone (no pun intended!)<P>MOM
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Ok people,<P>I can't pass this one up - sorry to break the thought of this thread - I remember when I all of a sudden was a member too - but . . . the change of thought is to . . . <P>SF - yes, I'm the BS too, with no SF - since Feb 2000.<P>I can't say he never comes near me - because I get little pecks, some affection is coming back -<P>Your thread hit a chord with no SEX.<P>I still wish he would give me attention/affection like a H is suppose to give attention. Okay, like I am seathing inside, I just want to cry. aftershock
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CONGRATS !!!<P>I just realized I'm a "member" too. It felt good. Strange, though to feel good about being a member of a site I found by typing "infidelity" onto search.<P>
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Wow - can't believe all the responses. I've been outta town since Friday morning. Aftershock - too weird - same situation, same time frame. I'm here and just as frustrated... maybe we need a girl's night out?? :-). Do you live anywhere near Virginia? Maybe our H's have been exposed to the same toxic waste or something? and WAT...I'm glad I didn't listen to your smiley face theory on being a member cause I still don't know how to do the smiley faces. And that is so annoying especially since I'm a systems administrator in a unix environment. Can't do smiley's on a pc. Go figure. Lostva...I saw you replied to a different post that I had replied to...hope everything is ok with you and Robert and that PT is out of the picture for good good good..... (still love the PT name story - definitely a classic :-)....<P>Deb<BR>
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Beentheredonethat, jdmac and myownme, badhubby and orchid...sorry, I came in on page 2 of the responses. I can't believe the similarities...somehow that gives me hope. badhubby...can I cyberslapyou - sorry, haven't been able to slap snl for awhile...I've been out of town. You know I'm just teasing, but it does help to take some of the frustration out. You guys are the best.<P>Deb<P>
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Doh -and Louser - I'm going to your other post now..Thanks for responding!
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