hmmm...anger is a natural response to a threat. Although it can often be misapplied, mis-directed, a control mechanism...etc. You did not provide enough information, but could be something bugging you, and should be addressed until you understand it.<p>1. You are angry cause you now realize om betrayed your trust. Was deceptive, a predator, and so forth.<p>2. You might be angry cause om abandoned you, after professing his love for you. Similar to #1 but not a predator, just a weak man who played with fire, and was not honest with you or himself.<p>3. You might be angry cause you were the predator, never was willing to leave your H, and facing that is much harder than blaming the om. (this would be displaced anger). It is very hard for anyone to admit to themself they were dishonest re love, and of course you would be obligated to apologize to om if this were true, and you may not want to do that, so easier to trash him, and soothe your conscience.<p>4. You might be angry at H, who is not meeting your en's, or resolving his issues, and rather than admit and face that, you turn anger to om.. (mis-directed anger).<p>5. You might realize (deep down) you really do not want to be married, and are fighting that. One time honored way to overlook differences is to make common cause against an enemy, the om in this case.<p>6. You might still feel vulnerable to the om, and are afraid if you had contact you would be drawn again, anger could be a premtive move on your part to resist this. But if true you really need to understand why you are attracted and what you should really do about it (as opposed to run away, or other forms of denial).<p>Anyways, just some food for thought. Why did you leave the om? Or did he leave you? Was he a good person? Or was he a creep?<p>[ November 17, 2001: Message edited by: sad_n_lonely ]</p>
