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During our seperation, I believe Dec. 23rd, my W had a dream that I was having an affair, and was doing sexual things with this other woman, in front of her. This made her wake up mad as h*ll and in a cold sweat. It also made her attempt to end the A that morning, but alas that didn't happen untill a couple days later. I find her response to the dream was very odd, if she really is "out of love" with me, as she constantly says. What do ya think?
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confused,<p> I am a BS and had a bad dream involving my WW. I think that she is on a sub conious level thinking that what she has done. It is eviend in the fact that she tried to end the affair the very next day.<p> If you haven't already hear. Almost all WS say that line. I love you but I am not in love with you. Keep up your plan. You really need to step up the plan A to overdrive, but don't somther her. Give her the space that she needs to kill the A off. Don't get involved with it at all. Let it end on its own.<p>Indy
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In my opinion as a WS, I think it was good for her to have that dream. I think she loves you still but needs a wake up call. I think you need to plan A her buy acting like new lover's. Take her out to dinner, buy her some roses. What ever the two of you used to do before M, try to do again. Write her a love poem about the things you love about her.<p>She may not know how she feels about you until something clears the fog. Good luck. Sherry
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Good advice Sherry, if we weren't flat broke now, I'd be doing a lot of that! Anyone have any ideas on things I could be doing, that doesn't cost $$$? I tell her I love her, I try to hug her or kiss her when she leaves, but what else?
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Ask her if she would like to go for a walk to the nearest park?<p>Write her a poem or a love note?<p>Mail her a card that you made yourself (34 cents)<p>Don't know where you live, but you could bundle up in warm clothes and go walk on the beach--that's always nice?<p>Single scoops at Rite-Aid are still less than a buck? Walk to the drug store, get a cone and walk back and just talk?<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] How's that so far?<p>Would she sit with you in the backyard underneath the stars and share your favorite snack???<p>re: that dream... I believe God speaks to us through dreams sometimes. I believe this is one of those times! I think that it is awesome when our spouses get to feel firsthand our emotions and/or frustrations regarding the relationship.<p>Hang in there and keep the faith!
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