PB...<p>Yes, I know what you mean. My WS tells me that S has to go here or there on business, and although I would not have questioned it in the past, now I think it's all a lie. Have no way of proving it or disproving it for the most part, so no matter which way I turn, I lose. MC wants to know what WS can do to reduce my anxiety....how do I answer that question? Even if WS sends me an e-mail with the meetings scheduled, they don't appear authentic.....seems like they were created in draft, sent to me, and not actually sent to the persons they're addressed to. WS suggests calling me....how do I know S is where supposed to be when I get the call? How do I know a cell phone isn't being used? Too many questions... Once a pattern of lies and deceit have been established I wonder if trust can EVER return. Part of the problem is I went through a similar situation with WS 14 years ago, so it's the second go around for destruction of my trust.
The first time was before we were married, and I wrote it off to being young and stupid. I was actually proud that I had worked really hard and had faith and trust in WS again. This time, I can't do that, and we've been married more than a decade. I wish I had answers for you. Sometimes I think they like that we think that's what they're doing, because it gives them free rein to go ahead and do it. We think that of them, so why not. I send you hugs and support!!! The only way I think we can turn this into a win is to focus on ourselves and not on them.
