My W, the WS, seems to be having a hard time giving 100% into putting back the pieces of our marriage, and I am believing the rivers runs deeper than it looks, so to speak. I have learned that in her past she always had a BF, and generally made sure she hooked another one before the other one was let go. I also found out that no one has ever broken her heart, so to speak. She is 25 yrs old, and comes from a family that isn't very good at displaying affection. I mean, they never hug her when she leaves, nor do they ever tell her they love her. (on rare occasions they do). She has told me her number one EN is Affection, but yet now she doesn't want that from me. Whenever I try to kiss her on the lips, she turns her head. And she isn't interested in cuddling/affection of any sort. How can I give her her number 1 EN, when she doesn't want it? The counseler says she needs to learn to love herself, in order ot love me again. Does this go along with her past? Am I making any sense? Thanks for anyone that can understand my attempt at typing what's on my mind. :^)