Could someone give me a list of highly recommended books that I could read this weekend? I know somewhere that someone put a link to this list, just can't seem to find it.

To start with:
"Tough Love" by James Dobson.
"Boundaries" by Henry Claude and Robert Townsend.

lhs - assumimg you've already read the Harley books, my favorite is "Private Lies" by Frank Pittman. A must read this weekend or later.<p>WAT

lhs,<p>Bible [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Prayers to you and your family, hang in there..<p>SH

loveherstill --<p>There's an excellent list of highly recommended books right here on this site under<p>MB Discussion Forums>>Infidelity>>Just Found Out>>Notable Posts/Threads>>Books<p>All of the ones mentioned here in your responses are there plus lots and lots of additional ones.<p>Ammon

Try... Books<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Jim/NSR

You need a break dude!!<p>It'll all be there for you when you get back.<p>My list:<p>Anything by John Grishm or James Pattersen.<p>Term Limits - Vince Flynn<p>The Third Option - Vince Flynn
Separation of Power - Vince Flynn
(read these together, Third option first)<p>
The Lions Game - Nelson Demille
This book is fantastic although it's 926 pages long. Nelson Demille also wrote "The Generals Daughter".<p>who

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actually, I am taking a break, a huge break from all of this. This is my first weekend in the new place and I am going to balance my time reading and doing things for myself.<p>If I can elaborate a bit. I am coming to the conclusion that W may have been planning all of this, that in a way she was looking for a way out of the M and has finally found a reason to do it. Seems kinda strange and far out, but some pieces of the puzzle have been falling into place lately. I just want to absorb as much info as I can right now, for myself, so I can process it and come to my own rational conclusion about where to go. Then, I am going to get as much info as I can about helping my kids through this so they don't have to suffer anymore than they are.<p>I'm not in any kind of hurry and am by no means giving up on W and the M, thats her call. And, I am not fixating or obsessing on the current state of the M. Its just that I need to know for myself what is going on so I can deal with it myself more effectively. That way I can move on and be a better me. I guess its just a phase that I need to go through on the road to recovery.

lhs,<p>I hope you don't think I was getting on you. You've been working way to hard. On your M, on yourself, everything. You deserve a reward. If it's not reading a book take a couple of hours and see a movie or something. Hey, go have a beer - have one for me too. [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] <p>My commnt about it being there when it gets back is just that. I think what you're figuring out is that you W doesn't want to be the one to end it. It's her warped way of justifying the end of the M and blaming it on you. You get the responsibility of the failed M in her eyes. All this trumped up crap is designed so YOU are the one that actually ends it. Anyways, that's what I see from here but all that matters is what you see. Just hoping to see you have a little fun.<p>who

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I appreciate your concern, and no, I don't mind you getting down on me, it keeps me in perspective, thats what real friends do for each other. Its just that I have started to put some things together about W's actions during the last year or so and I need to figure out what they mean to me. If I dont, then it will be constantly gnawing at me, not a good thing. Thats the male 'fix-it' syndrome rearing its ugly head again.<p>I am taking some time off from all of this. I finally am 'allowed' to get my stuff today and can get into the apt. Tomorrow I plan on going to church, go out for lunch and then go to some stores (the ones with big boy toys) that I have always wanted to go to, but never seemed to have the time.<p>I even started growing my moustache again, my 'starting over' look, just for me, no one else. Next month softball starts and I have signed up for the company team, after three years of them trying to get me to join.<p>It took a while, but I am finally letting go of all of this, and it dont feel so bad after all.

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