Had a weak moment today, but persevered.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Marshall59:
<strong>Had a weak moment today, but persevered.</strong><hr></blockquote><p>YOU still the man.<p> [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>who

Had a flashback last night. Wanted to call her so badly. One of the worst nights since the end of the affair, but I held on.<p>Help me to hold on, everyone, please!

PRAY! Ask God to help you discover new ways to love your wife. Every time you think of OW, think of something good about your W. Write down your blessings, count them all, and be grateful!<p>God has given you the GIFT of a forgiving wife, to go back to OW for any reason is being very ungrateful.<p>Besides, your wife would somehow find out that you contacted OW and you will be back to square one of the whole D-day. Is that what you want?<p>You are in control. You have proven this by sheer will-power. When you reach the end of yourself, seek God. He is only a prayer away! Good luck!

Don't weaken, Marshall. You can be strong. Just imagine how your wife would feel if you made even the slightest contact with OW. It's important to you how your wife feels, right? Just think about that. She's earned that from you through the faith she had in you and the pain she feels right now. Don't give in--put your wife first in your life now. She believed in you, & now she's suffering--I'm not trying to be harsh. Just offering a proper perspective for doing the right things. No contact with OW is a MUST. Prove to yourself and the lady you married that you can do it.

I am going out on a limb here....esp. since I have only been lurking so far....but...<p>Marshall59 on MB
Marsha59 on gloryB<p>MM/OW??????<p>If so, you marshall59 have been taking everyone for a ride!!! You HAVE been in long conversations with your OW....as recently as the other day, and she stated that the only reason you started posting here was to get her attention....which you have.<p>so....I HOPE your wife continues to snoop on you....she SHOULD be checking up on you!!!!!<p>[ January 26, 2002: Message edited by: yeardly ]</p>

Did you fall out of love with your wife, thus the affair? If so why did you decide the affair was over and what made you want to make things work with your wife?

Did you fall out of love with your wife, thus the affair? If so why did you decide the affair was over and what made you want to make things work with your wife?

Yeardly,
I saw this too. It made me a little sick to my stomach to think of a MM using MB to get in contact with his OW. I dont know what to say.

Marshall59, <p>Please tell us, is Marsha59 on gloryB your OW? I saw that post over there too and immediately made connection. We have all given you time and support out of the goodness of our hearts. Please be respectful enough of us to let us know what is up.<p>According to her post on gloryB she saw your posts here and contacted you. Is this true? Perhaps it would be a very good thing if you let your wife be involved in all of your internet activity.<p>No wonder you are concerned about her tracking the OW. There is plenty to find out.<p>[ January 26, 2002: Message edited by: zorweb ]<p>[ January 26, 2002: Message edited by: zorweb ]</p>

Yep, looks like we got played.

OK,<p>let's assume that OW is posting at Gloryb. Is it at all possible she is typing stuff that is not true? She may, just may, think that Marshall's wife is tracking her, so she MAY be embellishing for that reason, and also to rile us.........they seem to have a little vendetta going regarding this board right now.<p>However, Marshall, if it is the case that you did have setbacks, and now you feel bad because you didn't tell us, please get right back on the no contact wagon, and we will support your honest efforts.<p>We are here to help people save marriages, as well as our own........but we can only do so if you are honest with us.<p>Love and light,<p>Jacky

Marshell<p>Ditto "Nina too". If you are serious about recovering you marriage there are many here on MB who will be more then willing to be of support for you and your wife. And if you need privacy from snooping eyes, there are many who would be willing to share their email addresses with you so that you can have the MB support in a more private manner. It is not unusual.. unfortunately we have to do this from time to time.<p>Z<p>[ January 26, 2002: Message edited by: zorweb ]</p>

GEEEZ!!! GUYS! [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Do you know how many times you try to get an ID and you come up with the strangest name to find out someone already had that name? I heard of a lady once who typed all kind of names and finally gave up and typed in "IGiveUp" to find out someone already has that name too...<p>Just on MB people keep coming up with names close to Anna2000 and recently a new person came on as Anne2000, this is just a coincidence....<p>ANNA<p>[ January 26, 2002: Message edited by: Anna2000 ]</p>

Hi, Anna,
I don't think this is a wrong or disrespectful judgment.
Marsha59 on gloryb got into a panic about being found out because "her" MM was posting here and had all her posts deleted, so I think that those who figured out the connection were right on the money.

Anna,<p>Lady Clueless is right.... There was more to go on then just the names. It almost looks like Marshall59 was passing messages to her via MB... like that his wife is monitoring her on IM. Not only has Marsha59 deleted all her posts on gloryb but Marshall59 has not been back.<p>If on the other hand, he is has been upfront with us and is really trying to recover. Her
monitoring him here and then contacting him about it will only set him further back in his recovery. Just hope he and his wife are ok.<p>[ January 26, 2002: Message edited by: zorweb ]</p>

Thanks guys,<p>I just think we are jumping the gun...People have lives, he could be out, afterall it is Saturday night, and maybe I'm naive but I know on the internet there are coincidences that just happened.<p>ANNA

Hello all:<p>Before you pull out your artillery, please let me first apologize for all the commotion that was caused at my hands. I did not mean to make a mockery of this site and get the whole group into a battle over this site and TOW site.<p>The truth. Yes I posted here under this name so that the OW could see it. I honestly did not know if she was still lurking, as she made it clear to me some time before that she had to go on with her life. In hindsight and in truth, I'm not sure whether I wanted her to contact me again or for her to see that I was working on my marriage.<p>By the 22nd though, I did indeed wake up and feel that I needed to put the relationship behind me. I guess at that point I should have logged in under a new member name. The latter posts were truthful in that I was trying to deal with the situation and go on to improve my marriage. Yes, I was and am deep in the "fog", but the latter posts were genuine.<p>The fact that the OW saw the posts and was posting on TOW I did not know. I remember hearing of the site some time ago, but completely forgot about it until it was brought up here. I hope if you look at my posts again, you will see that I was indeed trying to sort out my feelings. I do think though that just because the OW was posting on TOW was not a reason to bring it here. I wasn't in contact with her at that time and the commotion started by your bringing it here. Please look at my posts and tell me if you see any evidence of encoded messages there. If you see that, then I apologize. The posts I deleted were deleted on the 22nd as part of putting the relationship behind me. <p>I have stayed away because, by the time I saw it, my wife had also. We are working through a lot of issues on that now.<p>Anyway, my actions were the spark that set off the explosion. I apologize to all of you for that.<p>[ January 31, 2002: Message edited by: Marshall59 ]</p>

Welcome back! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Marshall59,<p>I am really glad you are here again.....there are many who have been in your position and actually got out of the fog. It is good to know that you still want to be here.<p>Now how about a name change? One that OW will never find....something from years ago. Because rest assured, if she sees you here again, she will start games all over.<p>Love and light,<p>jacky