Alright, sorry I haven't been able to post much, have been very busy running around.<p>My new job involves a lot of computer "stuff", I repair, clean and mantain PC's to be exact, and work in the office my husband worked in for a long time, even before he met me.<p>Just a quick review of my background, so you don't get too confused:<p>3 DDays, the latest about 4-5 months ago.
WH had EMA with xOW (an exgirlfriend of his), only PA once, no EA.
He is completely remorseful and is actually plan Aing me, we are on the bumpy road to recovery.<p>-----<p>I am posting this with a disclaimer: My WH requested me to do it, it is confusing so I posted here at GQII. It gives a grasp on the nature of my WH xOW's sick sick psyche, and believe me this is a TRUE documentary, so please do not believe I am exagerating or making stuff up.
----<p>As I was saying, my job consists on keeping systems running and everything going smoothly. Well my supervisor gave me a very easy going task two days ago, look up every floppy in the office, review them for vital info, and format them if they had nothing of use on them.<p>I had to reformat about 100 of them, and in between the bulk I came across a document named "Project Stupid".
The name called my attention, I guess I was just a bit bored after all that formatting, call it fate, or just chance, but I opened it. Inside was something that would make anybody terribly upset, a complete log-psychoanalysis of my WH by xOW, dated just before they broke up, apparently she had left it over there and it had been forgotten.
My WH later put two and two together and came to the conclusion that she in fact had tried to retrieve the disk, but she would never really tell him what she wanted or why, she would just show up and act like a sniffling dog around the place, in search of her treasure.<p>In a start I couldn't give credit to my eyes... "Since the start of this experiment I have learnt a whole new meaning to the word stupid..." it read in the start.<p>It goes on to describe my WH as "unatractive, stupid, retarded, unsexy, bad lover..". The document had a complete log of the times she had cheated on him, on how she had 3 other stable boyfriends while living with him, on how fun it was to "lock him outside, and hear him beg to get in", or how amusing it was to "see him get really mad and cry".<p>It goes on saying how she found it terribly interesting that he'd give her pocket money even when she treated him like horse poop, how she would "inflate" his ego on time to time to make him hang in when she was actually wanting to vomit.<p>It was awfull, I was shaking, and feeling so terribly angry. This was written before my WH and I even met, but I love him more than life itself, and seeying her deplorating him like that, just set me off.<p>Then it made me sad because... he had endangered ME for a piece of SH@T the size of Texas, the smelly kind!!!<p>I tried to continue reading, she would quote psychologists such as Freud, to describe him as a "pathetic creature" who just wanted to be with her because she was so much more beautiful, intelligent, wise and capable that he would ever be! (Here talking the woman that couldn't tie her shoe laces on her own and who couldn't remember where Canada was).<p>I had to close the document when my supervisor came in and asked me to go do something outside the office. I felt ashamed for some reason, I felt bad, so, shaken I left without getting the floppy in a safe place. When I came back an hour later, the floppy had already been cleared, I tried recovering it, but nothing would work and it looks just like the other other 99 that were formatted that day by me and my co-workers.<p>I debated between calling my husband and letting him know or not, but I just needed to tell him, he is my best friend, my confidant, and if that had happened to me I'd have liked to at least goddammed freaking know.<p>I told him before our lunch break, he was very shaken and angry. We had already arrived to such conclusions in our own, but seeying them printed on her own words had shaken me terribly.<p>Why are people like that??? How can you do something so awfull, and actually find it amusing????<p>She would have her boyfriends come to my WH's house and sleep with them, she actually mentioned something about how my pathetic my WH was because he had complimented how sexy she smelled when he was actually smelling the cologne and scent of another man on her, YUCK YUCK YUCK!!!!!.<p>Oh my, how, why??? why are there people like that on this world? Anybody knows? I surely can't understand it.<p>Oh also, (my H reminded me after I posted), she stated that one of her goals was to actually make him angry, so depressed and sad that he'd break down and make him go mad! [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] <p>(edit note: my WH works now in another completely different place, and I started working after he left. The office he was in and which I am in now was a mess, and my job was to help making tidy :-p )<p>[ February 01, 2002: Message edited by: Alostwife ]</p>
