The last two years I didn't know about WH getting together with OW at a certain meeting. It was almost 9 months since they had last PA just phone calls often. Until last month they had a quick motel visit. WH still says he wants to work on marriage, but can't sign no-contact letter. WH moved out last week. WH has been on the fence over a year now. WH has seen the changes & is receptive to me although no POJA. I have been here for about 6 months. Your replys help so much. I know I should just think about day by day and keep working plan A.<p>My problem is that I received the conference registration and this time I know that is when they met. I need suggestions about how I should handle this conference. WH has been still wearing his ring & WH was glad I put mine back on after last month.
Should I bring up the topic or wait it out. Go with WH to just meetings, suprise WH & show up, suggest WH not go, what? I don't know if WH has even thought that fair ahead. OWH & family knows that we have separated & OWH changed his work schedule.<p>I know WH is really confused he thanked me for being so understanding and this last weekend when WH was with a group of guy friends he didn't tell anybody about our separation, except two of them already knew, but kept quite. The others just kept asking what was wrong with WH between themselves. They never asked WH.

I'm sure some others will have some advice for you because I might be wrong. In any case, I would not mention it but plan to show up. If you are still Plan A-ing and think it would be a love buster, then don't take my advice cuz I have never had to Plan A...<p>At least if you just showed up unannounced, you could see for yourself what's really going on... IF you think you are up to that. It could be rather unpleasant.<p>Gosh, now I have you more confused than ever, huh? Hopefully some others will jump in and help you think this through more clearly!!!