I am doing o.k now...not good but o.k. My H is still at home. I know that recovery can't begin until all contact is severed, I hope that happens soon. Is it possible for the OW to pressure the WS so much that WS will leave? OW did it when H was not at home about his wedding ring, he did it. But telling somone to leave their family or else...or maybe just bugging him all of the time? How many LD's can you make over the phone? HH once said it was a matter of catching up to OW's deposits...I am no so sure that is possible! I had some other questions too, this is from a post that I did on Saturday that I heard back from kam6318 on, thank you sweetie.My H too has said that it wasnt me but him. So guys this is where I am a little confused...<p>We went to play in the snow today, he is so sullen and withdrawn, I sat on the tube with him while D played in the snow and told him once again that I was there for him and that I would stand by him through whatever fire he/we have to walk through. I told him that I am committed to him and our marriage/family. I asked what he needed or wanted from me right now, he said that he didn't know what he wanted or needed. I am trying to be loving but I am almost scared to be...does anyone have some insight into his actions? He says I love you sparatticaly(sp) And why am I scared to be loving and caring? Sometimes I think that alone is a LB, even though I know it's not, or at least shouldn't be. I haven't been quite here befroe so I am in unfamiliar territory and need a Lewis and Clark.<p>Later that evening, I told him that I didn't know how to love him right now, and (asked or told, I can't remember) stated that I would love him as a wife is supposed to love her husband, and that I would wait for him and such...<p>and from antother post: Do you think that the Marriage builder weekend in April will help us? He did agree to family counseling for our daughter's sake, how can I get a FAMILY counselor that embraces these concepts? I mean it's not a marriage counselor. And is there anyone here going to the Washington LB in April?<p>--------------------<p>30/Female/Washington State

Faith-n-Hope,<p>Sorry you're not getting the much needed responses! And I apologize for not knowing exactly your situation.<p>It's hard to be in the same house yet be so far apart. I think you're doing the right thing by not nagging him, etc.. You seem sincere and gentle in your approach to him.<p>Have you read the book Hope For The Separated by Gary Chapman? I know you're not separated physically, but with your H's indecision, you're separated emotionally. If nothing else you'll be focused on the book to allow him a little breathing space. <p>I'm sure you're very torn and hurt by the unknown! I wish you strength as you both continue this journey.<p>God Bless!
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free2bme,
thankyou for the response. No I haven't maybe I will buy it today. If you get the chance check out my HEEEEEELLLLLPPPPPP!!! PLEASE???? Post, now that one is very confusing! What is your story? Or where can I find it. I will try to find my origional post and cut and paste...