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What d'yall think about this...<p>I've posted my Plan B letter recently, and got lots of great feedback - thank you again.<p>I was thinking on the train this morning about adding one sentence:<p>"I do thank you sincerely for the times you have expressed love for me over the past while, but I’ve come to a place where I need more than that as a person."<p>Rationale? 1. It reminds her that, yes in fact she HAS admitted she LOVES me, even recently. 2. OM will be getting a copy of this - my guess is that she's NEVER admitted this to him - so a lie of omission is revealed to the light of day.<p>What do you think? Too manipulative? A hidden LB? (It is an "I" statement after all.)
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I'd change "past while" to a specific time frame, and I'd leave off "as a person", just saying I need more than that.<p>I don't get an LB vibe from it, and I think it is honest and reasonable.
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J.R.,<p>I would eliminate the second half of the sentence, the part with ...but I've.... <p>The "but" negates everything before it. You might just as well have not made that preceeding, nice statement.<p>The plan B letter itself is telling her you need something more (or different). You could just leave it at that.<p>JMHO,<p>Jeffers
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How about this: "I do thank you sincerely for the times you have expressed love for me over the past six months – it’s strengthened me."
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That's great. I like it!!!! [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Jeffers
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