Well, I have it on good authority that x-H and OW are engaged. No idea when their holy nuptials will take place. <p>I truly didn't expect he'd take it this far. Guess they are "in-love", and they were always meant to be. <p>I hurt .... no other words.<p>Jo

dear jo- im so sorry for this news. i have nothing to say to help,for i am hurting also. different reasons. really having a down day. wish you all the strength in the world.

{{{{{Jo}}}}}<p>I am sorry for your pain. I know there is nothing I can do to take it away. I will be thinking of you.<p>Much love,
Clear

Someone tell me this isn't to be. Someone remind be about the stats of marriages from affairs.<p>How can he marry someone that was so verbally abusive to me when I was sick. I don't get this, does he think she was justified in what she did and said? Where is justice? Where is his conscience?<p>[ February 20, 2002: Message edited by: Resilient ]</p>

I'm sorry Jo. I KNOW that hurts!!! When I saw H Saturday to sign the papers, he had some kind of silver ring on his wedding ring finger. I asked him about it and he blew it off as nothing. WHATEVER.... I was like, is that like an engagement ring or something???? yukkkkkk<p>I like to keep in mind the recent post from DanaB, where her x-H and OW called off the wedding. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] Sometimes I am SO sure that my H and OW will prolly live "happily ever after", but we KNOW that's statistically not going to happen. We KNOWWWWWWW, ok? Keep that in mind. <p>hugssssssssssssss

THEY are not your problem, honey. Your H isn't even your problem anymore (sad as that is! [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] ). You need to take care of YOU, Jo!! You are a lovely, worthwhile, gentle, wonderful woman. <p>He is marrying a hateful shrew who will no-doubt be his undoing. The marriage may or may not last, but THAT ISN'T YOUR PROBLEM. But if this goes as most do, he will be divorced inside of two years.<p>Jo, I want you to take care of BEAUTIFUL YOU!!!!!<p>(((((JO)))))<p>[ February 20, 2002: Message edited by: new_beginning ]</p>

It's not like I want him back, not as he is, but the fact he'd marry someone that said the things she did to me at a time when I needed nothing but care and support. Makes me feel that I never mattered to him, it's the ultimate insult. Truly.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Resilient:
<strong>Someone tell me this isn't to be. Someone remind be about the stats of marriages from affairs.<p>How can he marry someone that was so verbally abusive to me when I was sick. I don't get this, does he think she was justified in what she did and said? Where is justice? Where is his conscience?<p>[ February 20, 2002: Message edited by: Resilient ]</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Jo dear, do you really want me to tell you where I think his conscience is? <p>Sorry that you are hurting. Even sorrier that this is hurting you. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>My STBX & OW have been engaged for 22 months, you ask how can this be when H & I were still sharing a house for 12 of those months & legally we are still married. Who knows?<p>Maybe you will finally be free or at peace, I wish I could give you some<p>and the LB Fairie would love to pay a visit to your XH [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

I know they're not my problem, I KNOW THAT, but will somone please explain it to my heart.

I was telling Lora just last night that after reading SnL's latest posts that I have come to the realization my H never did love me. <p>They probably will last and be happy, this is someone he may truly love. <p>I think I wasted my life on someone who never loved me.

I need to talk to somebody. I'm having a really hard time with this.

He isn't thinking clearly sweetie... he's not the same man who loved you...

I'm really sorry for your pain. Please try to be strong and do so with the knowledge that this man who was your husband is not the man you married. I'm praying for you. I wish I could do more. <p>((((((((((( JO ))))))))))))

Oh, and this "never loved you" bu!![censored] is just that -- BU!![censored]!!!!<p>I hate that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<p>It's one thing that snl says that I DETEST, and he knows it. That's the CRUELEST thing you can say to someone. You're telling me that these people don't love the person they're marrying EVER? I don't buy it!

Talk to us Jo. We're here. I'll call you in a bit if you want.... e-mail me if you want me to call in a lil bit... k?

Please hang in there. Know you are thought about. As hard as it is to feel the pain and hurt you have to do it. You are thought of and prayed for. I feell your pain with you. I am here. Cindy

I know I shouldn't but I want to call him and talk to him. I want to ask him if this is the person he always dreamed of. I want to ask him why he kept telling me he loved me and missed me when he obviously didn't. But I'd be talking to a stranger.

Ok you need to get your feelings out so write him a letter saying everything on your mind. Vent it all and then throw it away. Damn these WS's!

DON'T call him.... talk to us.... write a letter.... talking to him won't do any good.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Faith1:
<strong>DON'T call him.... talk to us.... write a letter.... talking to him won't do any good.</strong><hr></blockquote>