This may be to personal, but I need to ask.<BR>My periods are becoming very sporatic and irregular. It started about 6 months ago (after discovery). I've been to the doctor- everything checks out.<BR>I have lost 35 lbs and am very stressed (who isn't). I am just wondering if any one else is having this experience.<P>Cheryl

ceecee<BR>I lost 10 pounds in a 2 weeks. Not good. I couldn't afford it. <BR>My periods got somewhat irregular. I'm always right on. But they became MAJOR heavy from the stress. There were days that all I could do was lay on the bed with my legs on a pillow.<BR>With the pregnancy/miscarriage it got a bit more complicated but settling down now. Discovery was Dec.

well, it depends on whether you went from 135 to 100, or 200 to 165.<BR>once your body gets down to a really low percentage of body fat, it messes up your periods (like anorexics and ballet dancers have very few periods). if you went from a much heavier weight to a moderate weight, and the DR said it was ok for your periods to be all messed up, i might get a second opinion, but if you're way skinny, then it is ok, you should just try to eat a little more (ha, easier said than done, yeah?)

I'm at a normal weight right now for my height. One month they are very heavy and the next almost nothing. I have always been regular. I knew the first day I missed, I was pregnant.

My first question would be: how old are you?<P>Mine suddenly changed too... and I'm on the other end (as betrayer, but a very remorseful one) but have lost about 65 (needed) pounds and my periods are so heavy and getting closer and closer together. I'm told it's pre-menopause. <P>Sorry. Probably not what you wanted to hear!<BR>

CeeCee -<P>I had the same problem as you - my gyno said it was probably stress but took blood just to make sure I wasn't premenopausal....not likely at 37 but you never know with my luck!!!<P>Anyway - tests were fine and they have gone back to normal as time has passed and my stress level has lowered or at least I've evened off with it.<P>Weight loss, throwing up, diarrhea (sp?) the whole bit like can't eat, can't sleep, etc. I've had it all and it eases after time......just have occassional "can't sleeps" now!!<P>You should be back to normal when your stress eases some.<P>Hugs,<P>Sheba

After discovery of my H's affair, my periods became irregular also.....and I am on the pill!<P>My OB/GYN recently changed my prescription saying that maybe I need more progesterone & less estrogen in my pills.<P>This is the first month that I am taking the pills so I will see if he is right.<P>But, it sure is a coincidence that my periods became irregular immediately after the exposure of my H's affair....

ceecee,<P>There could be any number of reasons this has happened. Rapid weight loss and decrease in bodyfat, stress, medication side effects, pre-menopause, fibroids, and even fluctuating emotions. It could be no big deal, but it's worth getting it checked out. Definitely see a gynecologist and get his or her opinion.<P>------------------<BR>Love is meant to heal. Love is meant to renew. Love is meant to oust all fear. Love is meant to harmonize differences. Love is meant to bring us closer to God.

After my H's confession in Jan., I had 3 periods in 8 weeks, then nothing for 6 weeks. He's been "V'ed" but I thought it would just be my luck to get pregnant at a time when everything was so wretched. I'm 39, I've lost 23 lbs this past year. The gyn said it was stress and my age. Things have pretty much settled back down to my normal 26 day cycle.

OK, all you ladies who have lost weight due to stress. Isn't it wonderful that you're all so thin now? Think about it...you now meet society's standard of beauty. Your husbands think you're desirable because you're thin. Young guys hit on you because you're thin.<P>Doesn't anyone think it's ironic, and a bit tragic, that you've had to go through so much pain, and NOW people think you're attractive? That even if the weight loss is because you've suffered the worst emotional pain imaginable, it's weight loss and therefore a wonderful thing?<P>I'm not knocking anyone losing weight, don't get me wrong. But it just seems unhealthy that weight loss triggered by pain and trauma is regarded as a good thing.

D&C...it's not always a good thing. I was 8 1/2 months pregnant and lost 12 pounds in two weeks. I ended that pg with a total gain of just 11 pounds, but the baby was fine thankfully. <P>------------------<BR>Joan

Dazed,<P>Truer words were never spoken. And as the betrayer in this mess, it's really bad to have lost the weight because my H worries that now I look so much better I attract more men. It's like I need to gain the weight back just to prove I won't stray. Well, who would want me? I think that's one of the reasons I was so heavy for such a long time. My H cheated, and he was sure I would too, so I stayed fat.<P>How stupid!

Dazed,<BR>At least in this thread we're talking about menstrual cycles, nobody in THIS THREAD is saying it is wonderful.<P>In another thread I said I have benefitted from my weight loss, but I never said it was WONDERFUL. I said I thought I was normal the way I was. I'm still normal, attract not more, but younger, more attractive men. For some odd reason I attracted PRIESTS when I was heavy. Maybe it is my job & I haven't seen any priests lately.<P>I usually gain weight when mildly stressed. I LOVE TO EAT BUT NOT NOW. My H has moved out FIVE times & planning # 6. I lose 5- 8 lbs each time. Gain back about 3 each time he moves home. This bites. If you deal with stress differently, don't come at those of us who throw up, have diarheara (sp?), and simply can't eat.<P>There is no reason to be angry with someone who has lost weight because of this horrible situation, even if your, in your eating patterns--or not--have reacted differently.<P>So what if we look good? We're still MISERABLE! And, in my case, looking good hasn't helped nearly as much as my H's words indicated it would.<P>Not really so angry with you, Dazed, I just don't know if you know that weight isn't it, even if your H says it is. Read my post in Just Wondering's thread, it's after yours.

Well, in answer to your question cecee, I've gone through the same, under stress related circumstances. One month heavy, next month light. All checked out with the doc (good you had that checked out). After the "revelations" we lost weight, me especially. I'm 5'1" and was about 95 pounds at the time. Now I've compensated, unfortunately But I'm working on that. The infidelity diet is not a good one for sure.<P>Lor, couldn't agree with you more.

Lor, if you read my post, you should understand that I'm not ANGRY at anyone here...but there ARE mentions of weight in this thread that precede mine.<P>I was merely trying to point out that even when caused by stress and pain, we STILL think weight loss is always a good thing.<P>Sorry you misunderstood. We're all on the same team, here, ladies, or at least I thought we were.<P>Sorry...I'll back off from this one now.

Dazed, I was on a bit of tear last night. What I was intending to say was that this thread & menstrual cycles running amuck reflect how stress affects our bodies. And in some cases women mentioned their weight loss as a contributing factor to odd periods.<P>We are on the same team. Our stress/heartbreak affects us in different ways. I choose to look at my weight loss as one of the good things that has come out of my H's betrayal because weighing less is better for my health, eases my arthritic joints and something I've wanted for some time. The way it came about is wretched.<BR>No question about that.<P>I'm sorry as well. Shake hands?

ceecee,<BR>I lost 20 pounds in a month. I would go days without sleep. My periods have never been very regular, but they are worse now. I think what we are going through messes up more then our minds.<P>------------------<BR>To Thine Own Self Be True<BR>A.K.A.<BR>PondVJ<BR>

CeeCee, I think it is totally normal. When I went through my dramatic weight loss and stopped having a period, the counselor said " I was waiting for that to happen". No one seemed surprised, the Dr. or the Counselor. When you loose a ton of weight it just happens. You know I had girlfriends who thought I didn't eat because I wanted attention....Can you believe? I would have traded places with them in a heart beat. I didn't want attention, I wanted to die. Oh well, gain my weight back and got my period back too.....

CeeCee- please get this checked by your doctor. Hopefully it is stress related but could be something more serious.<P>You are better off having it checked. Like most of us one more thing to worry about we don't need.<P>God bless.