Hello once more! A quick update..
Last night I went to the dance as planned, danced all night & had a blast with a femail aquaintance.
H was there just drinking beer & standing talking to people but very quiet, anyway I continues to enjoy myself without a glance in his direction (that he noticed! we girls r quite good at that)<p>Anyway about 1.30am he dissapeared so i just kept dancing (the femail friend he has wasn't there but the OW he had an affair with 11yrs ago was there with her boyfriend) Anyway I went home at 3am & I thought thats funny my rooms curtains are closed & they weren't that way when i left.. So walked in the door & guess who was sleeping in my room! Well it wasn't goldilocks or any of the 3 bears lol so i proceeds to get ready for bed & got into my own single bed.<p>The other bed he was sleeping on is a sofabed that he intends sleeping on when he leaves here anyhow i gets into bed & this voice says don't you want to come & see whats this beds like I said nothing for a while & he said it again, I thought oh well i will just go over there & see what happens! Well the passionate kisses were back & one thing led to another but all he kept saying was this is so sad, & then he started talking about he didn't know how his back would handle the sofa bed when he leaves here.<p>Then he said to me did you notice i had gone from the dance, I said no & thats about it really, this morning he got up & went out & I haven't seen him since just thought i'd let u guys know.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>& then he started talking about he didn't know how his back would handle the sofabed when he leaves here <hr></blockquote><p>....... he's fishing around with this remark. Testing if you'll bite.<p>Stay [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img] ((( cooool))) ...... don't take the bait!<p>Hope Cinderella had fun!<p>Pepper [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ April 13, 2002: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</p>

Oh oh...I think cinderella should have stayed in her own bed. Just don't get false hopes from all of it. It's obvious he's still confused. Set boundries you can live with!

Thanks for your input, I guess I was maybe a little hasty in getting into bed but I was curious as to what he was going to say (thats usualy always been the time we talk most) maybe i should have just left him 2 stew, trouble is I have 4 weeks or so left here & i thought that if i can leave him with some "memories" that maybe would b in my favour.<p>I didn't feel used by what happened do you think i should have chucked him out of the room (nicely of course) I have made plans for leaving here which he is not going to b privy to but he does keep asking me where i will go. I will cut off all contact once i leave here, another question i wanted 2 ask was i plan on giving him my plan b letter b4 i go & was going to enclose my wedding ring is this a LB???? I will deffinately post here b4 i give him a letter 4 feedback from you guys & gals but should it b given 2 him just as i leave or the day b4 or what?? Cheers! Cinders

Whoops forgot?? do you think that by distancing myself from him & then sleeping with him (when he initiates it) that I am actually in reverse gear?? This confuses me a bit.. [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img]

Did I do the wrong thing?? From the above descripition I'm a bit confused about this. Wish I could help some of you guys with some advice but at the moment my heads a bit like a goldfish bowl! So I wouldn't b too much help but soon as i can i will.

wrungout,<p>If you want him to treat you better, you don't want to show him that he can take off and ignore you all evening long, spend the evening with other women, and still come home and get free sex from you.<p>Nothing will ever change as long as that is going on. That's why some here were a little concerned.

Ok thanks for your input on this am still considering my options of which there are only 2 aren't there!

Isn't that funny? You didn't think you would have a good time and I didn't think you sounded like you wanted to go and you ended up having a better time than he did!<p>You got great advice from everyone last time--they all told you to GO! It worked out great. Maybe they all have a point that should be well-taken regarding how close you let him get.<p>I DO think you should leave him with some good memories, as well as PROTECT YOURSELF from being hurt when he decides to lean toward the other side of the fence in his confused state of mind.<p>Regardless, I'm SO GLAD you enjoyed yourself. You deserved to have some fun! You have been in a lot of pain lately. It WAS his turn to feel something other than indifference!<p>At least he now knows that you still love him and desire him... nothing wrong with that... Just keep taking care of you! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]