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Yes, she is definately a dangerous one. I would strongly suggest that you and your husband sit down and have a serious talk about your concerns. He needs to understand that she is definately an issue in your marriage at this point, whether or not anything is really happening. Is she really worth risking problems in your marriage? This is a question your husband really needs to ask himself.<p>That's about all I can offer right now. Stick around, there are a lot of good people here, and I'm certain you'll get some more advice on this. Take care, and I wish you the best.

Why did you delete your post? You ok?

FAITH, My post was a mess, I was embarrased, it didnt make any sense, so I wiped it out. Im OK now, but I sure wasnt then. Thanks for being concerned!

HI, I read yhour post a few days back abuot the ow... and yes, she sounds manipulative and quite a problem... just to let you know... you are not crzy nor was your post. I am glad you got it off your chest and typing it out helps!<p>Leave her alone is the best advice I can give you, from someone who has lost control and slapped an ow and even more.... it is not the way to recovery/- but guilt and misery. I am so sorry I have gotten so angry at these ow's when yes... they help the situation and how bad it is... but our h's are the participants who are ruining our marriages and our relationships.<p>There women out there who just don't care about ruining a marriage... and men friends etc... who could care less too. I am faced with this, my h has a big set of new party buddies... to support his new irresponsible lifestyle. <p>You are in my thought and prayers, I know how hard it is.<p>Honey

I'm glad you're ok. Yes, your post was a little crazy, but that's ok. You DID need to get it all out. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I read your original post that morning, but I didn't know what to say. I had to think a little while. I tried to come back and take a stab at it. I pwwwomise. I really did. I have to agree with tutter and Honey, though. <p>I'm glad you're ok!!! Post anytime, k? We're here for ya!! You asked for help on your communication style on the other thread, but don't let that stop you from seeking support when you need it.<p>{{{{{{Replaced}}}}}}

Thanks guys. Last D-Day was over a year ago, and I still am missing a lot of puzzle pieces. That is what fuels my crazy thinking and writing. This really is a SAFE place to express it. Keeps me from LBing so much.

Hi Replaced,<p>So much of what you're going thru reminds me of my situation. No matter how hurt or crazy you think your posts are, just know that we all have been in your shoes to one degree or another. <p>The word Affair is synonymous with words like "Crazy, Desperate, Angry, Unbelievable, Numb, Overwhelming ... etc.". So please don't ever feel embarrassed for what you write here, we understand and we listen .... and most importantly, we want to help you get thru this the best way you can. And it is possible to not only survive it, but to be a better person after it, or in spite of it.<p>Much love and prayers your way,
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The word Affair is synonymous with words like "Crazy, Desperate, Angry, Unbelievable, Numb, Overwhelming ... etc.". <p>AMEN, AMEN, AMEN!!!!!<p>You are sooooo right, Jo/Resilient! I've thought I was seriously losing my mind during these past 6 months. <p>No one would believe the emotions/thoughts that you go thru while being BETRAYED! Only someone who has been thru it too....that's what is so awesome about MB!<p>Keep posting, Replaced. It's the only link with sanity I've had many a day!<p>amazingrace