I have a movie with someone in it that looks like ow. I have been tempted y'all to compare images. [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] "Who's prettier?" being on my mind.<p>Well, I have been resisting the urge. I know I'm prettier first off. Second, it doesn't really matter. I'm with my H and she never had a chance, really. It wasn't anything. It was a temptation to have an EA, but nothing doing. Praise God. It had nothing to do with me. I've given my H plenty of reasons.<p>So, the thought that comes in with the temptation is this, <p>"Are you going to invite her in? Into your home? Into your mind?"<p>It's like this:<p>Say there's a cat burglar. You know of this person. He makes you mad. So you invite him to dinner. You don't know why you would, but you do anyway. You invite him in and invite him to look around your house. He begins to steal things that are important to you. Things that bring you joy. And you do nothing but let him. He takes your Gma's pearl earrings you wore on your wedding day. He leaves and comes back the next day and you open your door to him.<p>Next, he takes your baby's coming home outfit. <p>Then, he takes all your wedding pictures. And you just stand there, paralyzed.<p>Finally, after months of inviting him in, you have no joy left. He's taken everything from you.And you let him.

Good post! hoping4future <p>I remember something similar that went like this: If there is a vacuum salesman at your door don't open your door. If you do he will throw dirt on your floor and push his way in to clean up. You've allowed/invited him in. Its like our thoughts, if we recognise a thought of OW/or any negative self defeating thought we have control over our thoughts. We can choose to allow the thoughts in or we can divert our attention to something else. It is important to grieve some and not be in denial though. I had a counselor say: allow yourself 30 minutes a week to grieve the affair. Like every Fri from 12:00 - 12:30. When thoughts come in mid week remind yourself it is not time for that yet. That way we can heal yet not be consumed with grief.

And for the record: I'm prettier than OW!

Thanks. It's been a year and it's still a problem for me.<p>But, this new trend of thinking is really helping.<p>Hoping

Bump<p>[ May 01, 2002: Message edited by: hoping4future ]</p>