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#997518 05/02/02 10:56 PM
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I thought marriage builders was here to help? Not make someone feel less then a penny. I only know a little bit about this mans story but it sure sounds to me like several women on here are posting and telling this man that he didn't do a darn thing to stop his wife from having sex with another man. I am sorry to tell you this but affairs happen because the other person stops caring for there spouse. And wants more excitment. It also sounds as though these women became close friends with his wife there for defending her for her actions. Like I said I don't know the whole story. But this guy needs more advice and this is the place at which he chooses to get it from. So try to be a bit more helpful and not hurtful. God Bless and good luck.

#997519 05/02/02 11:44 PM
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Hungry for Love, I agree that initially that was also my reaction to the way they expressed themselves to him, but the main 'critic' did have some valid points (although I agree they weren't wrapped in a simpathetic package). If you read her last post, she acknowledged that she had been somewhat overly critical of his behavior towards his WW when Just Learning reminded her what plan A and B objectives were.<p>Even though I am a FBS, I can see many mistakes that we, BS's, tend to do in the beginning that instead of making our WS's committ themselves to the M, tend to push them away (Love busters). We want our WS's so bad that we forget that it will take time for the WS to WANT to committ to rebuilding the M. In other words, our fear gets the best of us and we become impatient and demanding with our WS's. I've often wondered whether a little bit of emotional detachment from the WS during the withdrawl phase of a WS (where they find themselves contacting the OP) might be helpful to the BS to gain some control over his/her emotions. This could prevent 'reacting to' (emotional)the WS's actions and foster 'acting on'(rational) opportunities to be supportive to WS when the A is in it's last days. Letting our emotions dictate our course of action has, is, and always will be a bad idea.<p>Joe

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