Originally Posted by Coolbeginnings
Even more bizarre that this is part of me still pangs for him which is even worse than everything else.
That means you still have some love for him. Plan B is intended to protect what love you have left so that if he pulls himself together you can decide to take him back if you so decide.

Originally Posted by Coolbeginnings
He also publicly shames us, he couldn’t have moved anymore central and from what I gather is publicly posting regularly on Facebook about his ‘wonderful new single life’.
Pliug that hole in your Plan B today. You should not know this.

Originally Posted by Coolbeginnings
VBF never forgave his Dad for leaving his mum (his mum also had angry outbursts) and his mum attempted suicide after his father left. Yet I ended the relationship due to drugs, alchohol, cheating and angry outbursts and he punishes me for doing so. He was so angry with his dad that he wouldn’t talk to him for years. Yet he is behaving far worse.
Pretty text book stuff. He is recreating the trauma of his childhood in the hope that he can create a different outcome.

3 adult children
Divorced - he was a serial adulterer
Now remarried, thank you MB
(formerly lied_to_again)