My Dad couldn't spell either, and he had two degrees!

He would never play scrabble with us, LOL! Wonder why. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

It was sweet really.

I am an atrocious speller most of the time, but I do good at scrabble. Scategories too, now that is a fun game!

Kimmy,

It IS good to see you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

>Kimmy, I can't believe you would look.


Oh. C'mon. You're kidding, right? You practically double-dawg dared me not to look. How could I not???????????????????????

naughty BECK!

Don't tell your right hand baby
What your left hand do
You know those road check girls
Will make your brown breath blue

Ooh, ooh, ooh!
Peaches and cream
You make a garbage man scream
It's such a dangerous dream

Peaches and cream

You look good in that sweater
And that aluminum crutch
I'm gonna let you down easy
I got a delicate touch

Ooh, ooh, ooh!
Peaches and cream
You make a garbage man scream
Come on girl it's a dream

Peaches and cream

You're a torn out page
From a best selling book
Your home girl's on the line
But your daddy's off the hook

Where do we go now?

Give these pious soldiers
Another lollipop
Cause we're on the good ship
Menage et trois

Ooh, ooh, ooh!
Peaches and Cream
You make a garbage man scream
Such a delicate thing

Peaches and cream
You're the only thing I'm gonna need tonight

Keep your lamplight trimmed and burning
Keep your lamplight trimmed and burning...

Too funny Gray, with the peaches and creme song.

I was just reading a book before bed and read this quote. It reminded me of you facing your demons and attending this party, regardless.

"If one man conquers in battle a thousand times a thousand men, and if another man conquers himself, he is the greatest of conquerers." ~Gautama, the Buddha

I just saw this, SS. I understand now about the three months. I was killing some time today while he stopped in to see his dad and I picked up my journal. I read what I wrote back in April and May. Wow what a difference 3 months can make. So to answer SS, yes I can wait three months. I just showed myself how much progress we have made even with the latest eye opener about the money.

Hey Weaver! Glad you had a good time. Kimmy, a woo hoo for the first day of kindy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hi SS. You're right, God has a way of having things open up at just the right time. I've seen it before. I'll see it again, I'm sure. And you're right that God probably knows I can't yet see the kind of person I'm looking for. Otherwise I would have seen him in person. I'm too wrapped up in other things. Did you know that I still love my ex? Funny, that. Funny the way baloney in your shoes is funny. Which is to say, there's nothing to laugh about. You just look at your shoes (or your heart) and you say, "Huh. That's funny. What's that doing there?"

And thank you for your words about my help. It's hard to help. It's hard to know whether you're really helping in the long run, in some of these situations. There's so much pain, and so many twists and turns. People who are caught up in panic are hard to help. They keep flailing around working on drowning, and I can't just haul them to shore. I have to teach them to swim right there in the middle of the ocean.

I wonder what the shore is, when it comes to a marriage. Maybe that would be Protection Phase. People surely fight going to that shore.

Anyway, I should sleep. I brought cookies for those who want them, though. Oatmeal raisin made from the recipe on the Quaker Oatmeal canister, so you know they're good.

Thanks for the cookies J.

One of my favorites.
Sweet dreams.


Weaver, I am glad you had a good time. We do need these experiances.

Time with spouses, time with children and TIME FOR OURSELVES. Time to read, time to think, time to weed the garden.

I brought peach pie. Baked this evening. Peaches were picked this afternoon.

I have ice cream too - but it's melting, so get it while you can.

Faithful,
From week to week if often looks bleak. I am glad you looked at your journal. Often it is only looking back over months that we can see what you are seeing.

Progress, or lack of the same is much easier seen when we can grasp the big picture.

What is hard, is lasting that long - isn't that right SLH.

SLH,
Are you doing better, or just faking it? I want to know.

SS

I *am* doing beter today, SS. Thank you for asking.

I thoroughly enjoyed those pics. Are you saying you took that one of the rainbow? Amazing!

We got paid yesterday evening, so that will take care of the immediate problems. Yay!

We had a great Sunday at the beach (I know I would have carried that feeling over if I hadn't been hit with Ti going out of town on another family holiday.) Here's a few pics:

Not quite the Beach Boys. . . but trying!(lol)

Tryouts for swimsuit model

Wanna-be Hasselfoff, sans lifebelt *chortle*

Weaver, been thinking about you lately. How are you doing after a few weeks from your brush with the law (that's humor, please know I am jesting)? Still processing things? Did your trip help revive the happy Weaver we know & love?

Kimmy, your update brought tears to my eyes. I am so happy you two are moving forward into recovery. Do you have any details? Kids, custody, that sort of thing?

Has anyone seen or heard from 2Long? Wondering if he's okay.

Gray, have you come to a decision about what to do i/r/t the event you were invited to? Will you let us know how it goes?

FF, you see progress, and you mentioned the sitch with the money. I found and read your thread pretty much after the fact, but it sounds like there was some resolution that I missed. What's happened, babe?

JJ, you teach us to swim right there in the ocean more than you realize. Even with baloney in our shoes. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

For the prayer warriors among us -- could you please remember Aphelion? He is going through a really troubled time and I know he would appreciate being lifted up in Prayer.

LOL, that's Hasselhoff, not Hasselfoff.

They've already instituted the no-edit-after-X-amount-of-time rule. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

slh

I emailed the friend and asked her if she could suggest a gift. She just replied asked if it's okay that she invited sparrow, then said she wants me to come 'cause of how much her son likes me.

Know what? The whole thing gives me that ole familiar feeling. She'll be there. I'm sure of it. Just imagining it, I can't feel my fingertips. I want to bow out. SH*T.

GC

SLH, I noticed progress in our M in general after going back and reading my journal from April and May. The money thing I think is resolved by communicating via email with my H.

I will keep Appy in my prayers. If you are in touch with him, tell I think about him often.

Just where is 2L anyway????

Oh and SLH, your kiddos are simply yummy!

Are you ready to face her yet, GC? If not, I am sure you can drop a gift off early and leave. Perhaps arrange with the friend for you to come over an hour before the party to visit with the son.

FF, this doesn't seem like facing her. It seems like walking into ****** itself. Walking through the fence and looking for a seat on the crowded patio with sparrow and the tinman sitting there. I don't even know what he looks like.

Does that mean I'm not ready?

I'm cursing a blue streak right now. Disappointed in myself. I thought I could handle this, but the reality of it is too harsh. Reading my friend's email put me back on my heels.

Guess this business is sorta taking my temperature, innit?

GC

Gray, to tell you the truth I cannot imagine EVER being ready to face two people who deliberately tore my life and the life of two small children (tinguys kids)apart for purely evil and selfish reasons. I have been thinking about this a lot lately because I do want my H to have C with OC but I really do not want to see OW. She like your XW, deliberately pulled the rug out from under me with her and my H's actions. I still blame her a great deal for seeking out an R with my H even though she knew he was M'd with kids.

Why would you ever want to put yourself in a social setting with those two? See if you can go early.

I told my friend that I was sorry, but I couldn't do it. Here's her reply:


That's funny. She meant to warn me, but not the sparrow.

She invited me to drop by before her DS leaves, or to go to the movies with them maybe.

I'm wimping out.

GC

No, you are protecting yourself. I would count her as a good friend.

FF, I do. She handled that brilliantly. I'll bet she knew how to deal with it without a second thought.

She's lost respect for sparrow, but has been friends with her for 20 years and feels an obligation.

GC

GC, I'm glad your friend cares enough to offer you the chance to protect yourself. I'm glad you care enough to take the time and energy to protect yourself.

I'm glad you'll find a way to spend some time with the young man who's going off to Germany. Because he surely doesn't deserve all this crazy adult stuff.

The best gift to give for his trip to Germany? Hmmmm. Tough one. Two, no three, things come to mind. First, international phone cards so that he can keep in touch with family and friends. Kids are embarassed that they're lonely, but they -are- lonely when they go off like that.

Second, stamped postcards that he can just fill out. Harder to get correct postage, but not impossible.

Third, and this isn't about being lonely, call his mom and see how he's doing for converters for all his electronic gadgets. I had a ton of 'em when I used to go to Germany regularly. Seems like you can't ever have enough.