MS, I'm going to pick your posts apart and point out anything that makes me think, "Hhmm...", because my gut feeling on you was right from the start.
I'd like to see you finally stop destroying your family. I'm not convinced yet.
He said that God is in the business of restoration and encouraged us to seek Godly counsel, whether it was with him, his associate pastors or our current pastor.
You are seeking Godly counsel through Jennifer at MB.
One of your EPs should be that you will not share personal information, especially about your marriage, with a member of the opposite sex. Yes, that includes your pastor or a counselor.
Many, many pastors/counselor do not keep healthy boundaries. No matter how ridiculous it may sound to you right now, you are in no position to be crying to any male except Spartan.
And many, many pastors/counselors are clueless about recovering from infidelity and will lead you into places that will do you no good. You already have a counselor...Jennifer.
Stick with one program so you aren't tempted to pick a little of this and a little of that. That approach will get you nowhere.
I told him that I never, ever had put in place ANY boundaries to protect our marriage. As of this week, I have made radical, documentable changes.
I hope you realize that what you have done as far as boundaries the last few days are BASIC steps. You have done nothing extraordinary here.
Password for my Yahoo e-mail account given without being asked.
Password for the a Christian band's street team MySpace page that I manage given without being asked.
My cell voice mail password given without being asked.
I find it interesting that you repeatedly said "given without being asked."
You are still looking for kudos instead of focusing on doing what is right because it is right.
Offered a postnup that if I ever step outside of the marriage again, he gets all physical assets and the children without question.
Why is another infidelity on your part required before offering "just" compensation?
That puts the burden of proof on Spartan if you have another affair. This document will mean nothing if he cannot prove to the court that you are in an affair again. So you really aren't offering anything here.
Offered to have him install GPS on the car, a voice recorder, key loggers on the computers or any other means of verifiable tracking that he deems necessary.
DO IT YOURSELF!
Why are you dumping this on Spartan?
I always saw the OM at lunch, so now I take a female coworker with me everywhere I go. I also have a female coworker to go rollerblading with me at lunch when I'm not going out to eat.
Are these female coworkers people that you have disclosed the truth to?
The REAL truth.
I will be going to Barnes & Noble today to get some self help books on pathological lying and will also counsel on an individual basis with our marrige counselor about this.
Why? Do you lie all the time about everything?
Or was all the lying done in order to keep the affair going?
See, I doubt you have an issue with lying. You are just an addict who will do whatever is necessary to get their fix. It could be lying, stealing, anything. But lying was necessary for your fix.
Quit sidetracking yourself with "issues" and start dealing with the AFFAIR and how to stop having them.
I begged God's forgiveness for all of the destruction that I've done to everyone around me and also to myself. Change is happening.
Boy does that sound familiar.