DH is out of hte country and wont beback till feb 6 I was at my friends house having some wine and my friend had to go out to run some errands and I stayed with the husband who is my firend as well, so we started talking and one thing led to another and welll you know.

I don't know what I'm asking I'm in total freak out mode I cannot believe I did this.

Lots of posts on this one in a short time span.

loki..how about this;

You don't tell,

your "friend" says he will tell your husband if you don't sleep with him again, because he didn't get a chance to finish the first time. What will you do then?

Don't think he will do that do you? But you also didn't think you would ever sleep with him.

If my DH had come to me broken and contrite and armed with what he had learned from MB four years ago after his first sexual encounter with OW, he would have saved us months of pain and agony and soul searching. You are so blessed to have stumbled upon MB. What you do with the information will determine your future.

Especially since the one thing they apparently didn't do was "sleep."

Not sure on this, Fred. Most of my conquests fell asleep. Most of the time it was during, but sometime before.

Pep, I was so thinking that when I saw Z's post...

Harrison Ford to the President in "Clear and Present Danger"; "How dare YOU, sir."

I think this is a full blown affair that you just now consummated.

lokil,

I am speaking to you as a former 'ho, I hope that you will stick around here. I have a few things I hope you can think about, or clarify.

1. You are hanging out with a GF and her H, you two are left alone for an hour and end up screwing? I am having trouble wrapping my brain around how your brain and your loins transitioned from "this is GF's hubby" to "let's get naked" in that short of time.

Honestly I don't know if it was an hour i wasn't timing anything, we were playing cards listening to music and just talking, I honestly do not even remember how it came to something else

Has there been a period of flirtation before now? Have the two couples joked about swapping? Being snowed in a cabin together for a weekend almost sounds plausible how you could talk yourself into it that fast (plausible but equally wrong), but in an hour?? I believe this is something that has been brewing for awhile.

No we have never flirted yes I think he is good looking but had no intentions of doing anything.

2. You said, if I recall, that you have spoken to OM and he swears he won't tell his wife. Then, you stated that he had no cell and there is no way for you to stay in contact with OM other than through his wife. Am I mistaken, or did you say these two conflicting stories.

We tAlked while my friend was in the kitchen making dinner I have not talked to either of them after that. We were suposssed to do something this weekend I'll see if they call.

Know, you and OM have this "juicy secret" and you two have a sick bond over it. This is very, very unhealthy, surely you can see that? Right??

I get it.

3. Let's assume you are know pregnant with OM's child. What is your plan then, continue to lie, fudge the numbers so your BH thinks the child is his forever? Are you willing to lie on something like that?? Pretend you know that you are pregnant with OM's child, what is your plan now? You going to let GF throw you a baby shower?

lets not assume that, but the baby shower thing made LOL thank you, first time i laughed sind that day.

Do you see how tacky this is?

Yes.

My point is, I think this is more than losing your mind for an hour, unless you were dropping acid or something. I think this is a full blown affair that you just now consummated.

I never never thought of doing anything with him before that

At the very least, you should let your GF know that her hubby screws around. There is no way that you are the first. Don't be a crappy friend AND a crappy wife.
He does nto screw around I know this people have known them forever.
Tell your husband and your friend.

I'm thinking about it

You will always regret cheating. I promise you will never regret telling the truth.

Lokil,

I just have a few questions that I hope you will answer.

You said you were drinking before you had sex, were you drunk before you had sex or afterwards?

Was your friend�s husband also drunk?

Oh yeah we were drinking all after noon

Which one of you made the first move?

I have no idea I think I was on the computer I got up and he wsa there and he hugged me Dont remember much.

Was there any conversation before the physical act? If so..what?

WE were talking about a million things nothin affair related computer business stuff

How long did you stay with them after your friend came home?

2 or 3 hours.

How did you get home from your friend�s house?

taxi

When you spoke with your affair partner the next day, was he agonized over what you both had done? What was his reaction?

I havnt talked to him since that day

Has he previously tempted you?

No never


Has he attempted to seduce you before?

Nope

Had you fantasized about being with him prior to that night?

Hell no

Have you ever discussed with your husband how either of you would react if adultery entered your marriage?

kind of way before we were married tho

Has your husband been faithful to you?

Yes

Just trying to understand your relationship and the events.
There is very little information in your posts.