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Well...

I liked Mel's post the other day to one of the CA men.

"Does the OM fit into your clothes as well?

Boots ON!

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PS:

Thats 3! Countem 3 guys now.

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Originally Posted by chrisner
The front door is kicked in by home invaders. A man barricades his family and sets up his defensive position to the death if necessary with his Les Baer 1911 Premier II Super-Tac .45. (I gotta get one!)

The man�s wife commits adultery with the intent of taking everything she can get including the kids to spend the rest of their life with her sole mate and the man meekly launders a load of her new sheer panty and lingerie collection and then slinks away into the spare bedroom. Because doing anything else is too scary.

I don't get it. Invader breaks into the house and he bravely defends his family. But an invader breaks into his marriage and his children's family and he turns French.. crazy


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I think the trick is to be BRAVER than the OM. You have to admit it takes alot of brass balls to invade a man's marriage and destroy his children's family.

A husband just has to be braver than that.

Typically, though, the OM is really not brave at all once the BH stands up to him. The typical OM is a coward and a lowlife.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
I think the trick is to be BRAVER than the OM. You have to admit it takes alot of brass balls to invade a man's marriage and destroy his children's family.

A husband just has to be braver than that.

Typically, though, the OM is really not brave at all once the BH stands up to him. The typical OM is a coward and a lowlife.

Yep. You have to be pretty low to invade someone else's marraige. I know this is half of our spouses on the forum - but come on.

If I was a guy, I'd get a gun and put on that hat and practice saying, "Hell's coming with me!" until I had it just right - and then I'd go after POSOW (well, I guess it would be POSOM if I was a guy).


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3rd D-Day: 4/21/10

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I was gonna respond, but my wife said I couldn't.

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Originally Posted by ouchthathurt
I was gonna respond, but my wife said I couldn't.


Then you go right back in there and POJA that, little mister!!


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I know that my H would do all of the things that a man would do for his family, that have been said here.
I believe that he would stand up to me, state his intentions for my behaviour in our M, and if I did not conform, he has said that he would likely kick me out. I believe this.
I don't think he would expose though. For some reason that would be conflict that he would avoid, yet I can still see him kicking me out on my hiney. Odd.

So why is this?

Is this because he was raised in a family and a generation that you respect women, (I see the irony)
you don't dare raise a hand to a woman, you open a door for a woman and walk on the right side of her at all times.
A time when you were taught to never disgrace or discredit a woman. IDK.

Although a man would protect his family to the death, a woman would too, females are very protective of their families, we see this in nature.

I do know that I've seen pages among pages getting BH to expose, sometimes they do and sometimes they don't.
It's extremely frustrating!




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Originally Posted by ouchthathurt
I was gonna respond, but my wife said I couldn't.

rotflmao


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Originally Posted by ouchthathurt
I was gonna respond, but my wife said I couldn't.

Get back to the laundry.

The guy count is up to 5!

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But seriously, the feminization of men has created this problem. Men have been told that they need to get in touch with their feminine side. Our marriage needed a tune up a while back. My wife had developed a lot of bad habits. Taking me for granted. Getting the "face" when I would come on to her for sex. So when my daughter moved out last year. I told the wife that now we can discuss whether we should split up, since the kids were out of the house. I just said it kind of matter of factly. I told her that she has plenty of friends to hang with and we could still be friends and stuff. I guess that made her think about things. And when she came to the realization that her golden years might be restructured into silver or possibly copper years, she did a major 180. I don't get the "face" anymore. She is definitely more clingy and considerate of what my thoughts are about situations. I don't lord over her though. The funny thing is. She is a lot happier then she was b4 I brought the discussion up. I guess she just needed to be reminded how good she has it.

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Maybe certain men pick abusive women and get used to being used and abused. Then when these women cheat on them, they have no courage since their courage had been stripped away by woman thier whole marriage.

And maybe the women in thier childhood stripped thier courage away also.

We know guys who are weak when it comes to ALL women. And some women use these guys like toiletpaper.


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It's very sad, because most of the good guys go for the super-hot women who are abusive and run them over.

I would rather have a man willing to be a man, not a guy whose every answer is "yes, dear."

Let me run over you and I will lose all respect for you. I mean, what woman wants a man she can master?


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I would rather have a man willing to be a man, not a guy whose every answer is "yes, dear."


Karma, the full quote is, "Yes dear. You're right. I'm sorry."

Right out of Appeasement 101.


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LOVE this thread !!!!! kiss

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It's guys like that that are the reason I'm still not much interested in dating.

I am a gamer, and thus (as one could imagine) get LOTS of attention from guys who play Warcraft. Most of these are kings of appeasement.

I enjoy a good nerdly talk, someone who enjoys what I do, but the main point is that I am agreeing with the thread, and that is: If I wanted a yes-person, I'd marry myself.


One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger

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Originally Posted by Pepperband
LOVE this thread !!!!! kiss

You just like all the Guns and Ammo talk.

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I officially award this thread with the "Bring Pep Out of Lurkdom" award!


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Hey MF! I have met you and I will say right now if I were ever in a good bar fight I would want you on my side.

Why's that?!?!?


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Originally Posted by chrisner
Originally Posted by ouchthathurt
I was gonna respond, but my wife said I couldn't.

Get back to the laundry.

The guy count is up to 5!

You can add me to the count.

Better yet, you better d@mn well add me to the count because if not, I will make your life HELL! mad


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