The exposure step has Ben done. It was not as bad as I had expected my friends were supportive in helping and my son was a lot more mature then I was expecting and even apologized for how he had Ben acting
Of course it wasn't so bad!
You sent a text to all of them....
I'm disappointed to say the least!
You got away with hiding all the details again.
You got to hide behind the safety of a phone!
You didn't have to make any amends..
Answer any questions..
See the look in their eye's when you told them THEY were the alibi that allowed the affair to occur..
Risk info coming out that your wife might not know about yet..
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Texted it instead,,,, such classic wayward behavior......
I'm sorry, but I thought you were about to take a major step in demonstrating how you've changed.... I was wrong.... Instead you reverted back to protecting YOU, YOU, YOU!
What get's me the most is that your son apologized to you guys for not coming around.... You should be embarrassed!
He was gaslighted about your affair, lied to, used as cover and somehow he now has guilt as a result of the fallout.... And you, in your wayward thinking, are proud your son had the courage to apologize.... Really! Seriously! You've led him astray in his thinking, AGAIN!
ARGH! I want you succeed, I want you to have the best marriage possible, and that's why I refuse to sit by quietly and allow you to get away with these HALF-MEASURES!
Your wife deserves better!
Your son deserves better!
You are capable of better!
Please start posting in more detail if you want help! I don't type well either, yet I and many others give their time freely regardless....
Where are you with your EP's?
Please list them out here so we can review them.
And update me on which of Dr. H's books you've now completed.