So if I subpoena the OM we have to call a hearing. I'm not sure what calling a hearing entails or what it accomplishes in regards to the divorce process. I don't want to "rush" things to a point where we can't turn back, but I REALLY want to take some sort of action to scare him completely out of the picture.
I find it very frustrating that I have to explain to you why it would help things to call the OM into a hearing. Can you guesss why?
And yes you do need to RUSH. You need to serve your wife and have the OM subpoenaed so they will understand that you are not going to roll over and play dead. The whole point of this exercise was to bring conflict into the affair. And that opportunity is being completely forfeited. I am not sure why.
It would be a good idea to serve your wife on grounds of adultery, have a hearing with the OM, thereby causing enormous conflict in the affair and then ........... backing off. You will have probably run off the OM, given your wife a wake up call and secured legal protection.
So....why in the world are you waiting?
I am filing on the grounds of adultery. I told her this quite a while back if it got to this point. So she is aware of the fact that my counter file will be on those grounds.
All completely meaningless unless it is REALITY. Why in the world would she take you seriously if you don't do that?
I'm working on the paperwork now. I didn't know if I should take the entire time that I have to legally counter file (30 days from the day I got her paperwork) so she would have time to think about things.
There is nothing for her to think about if you don't do anything. Just talking about it is not the same as doing it.
I'll call my lawyer tomorrow morning and find out what has to be done to subpoena the OM. If she can subpoena the OM without calling an actual hearing, that would be great! I'm just unsure of what calling a hearing will have to accomplish in legal terms. I know what WE want to accomplish. Do you know anything about the hearing?
A hearing would be wonderful! The OM can be sworn in on the stand to give sworn testimony about his affair. While you watch!