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No, I'm no longer in contact with h. I've really made a mess of things before coming to mb. The last conversation with him he told me never to call him again so I'm doing just that.
The best thing you can do for yourself is an airtight Plan B. I don't see a whole lot of hope for your marriage, because you and your estranged husband both have low boundaries when it comes to the opposite sex and there've been so many mistakes on both sides. However, Plan B is still your best option whether or not your marriage is saved.
No, he is not supporting me or the children. I have not received a dime since he has been gone. We have lost our home and are staying with my mothers ex-husband which is my older brothers father.
Have you seen a lawyer? I'm not a legal expert by any means, but Dr. Harley often advises women to file for divorce in these situations so you can start getting child and spousal support from your H.
I'm not doing to well sometimes I get depressed when I think about my children and the situation so I try not to dwell on it. That keeps me sane.
If you find yourself feeling consistently low, consider seeing your doctor for anti-depressants. It need only be temporary to see you through the worst part of Plan B. ADs help to equalize out your emotions.
It's funny, I appreciate you touching on plan b I read up on it and figured that's where I should be as well. When I contact him I just give him too much power.
Does he see the children? Visitation should be arranged through an intermediary. All financial arrangements should be arranged through an IM as well. You would end ALL contact with him. Send him a final love letter based on the templates
Here.
In addition, I'm equally glad you touched in the subject of male friends to be honest that's where I have been getting the bulk if my financial support but I suspected I should not be entertaining that since they'll probably be looking for something in return.
Thanks again for the advice it was enlightening.
For the sake of your own integrity and for the safety of your children, you should avoid dating for the foreseeable future and concentrate on raising your children and finding viable ways to support yourself. While you are married, even though separated, you are not free to date, because you are not single. Maintain high and strict boundaries with men.