feels like im being malicious also OM2 works for same company could be in trouble for harassment? Even if it is the truth?
Plus she has friends still in the company that can make my life hell! Have to be very careful here if I do. Last exposure I did a group message on FB as thats the only contact I have for some. That way they all could see who else had seen. Some of her family are going through very bad illness at moment dont want to add more stress. She will know I have told on my side. I think only her Mum, sister and a couple of close friends need know this new one. It gets through the family vine anyway.
We can't help you if you'd rather be an enabler.
of course someone who scams on women in the workplace will get into trouble for it. What does he exect a medal and a payrise?
Plus she has friends still in the company that can make my life hell! Have to be very careful here if I do.
How exactly? If they reveal themselves as enablers that is helpful information to you. You will know you cannot trust them and that is useful to know.
Some of her family are going through very bad illness at moment dont want to add more stress.
The fact that their relative has very scummy standards and is open to any any passing OM is extremely stressful, I agree. But with the true information about this available to them, they can decide whether she is worth the stress she brings to them.
I think only her Mum, sister and a couple of close friends need know this new one. It gets through the family vine anyway.
So what's the harm in it coming clearly, confidently and gently from you? Surely it is much better from you than for ill people to hear it via gossip?
I exposed on the anniversary of the death of OW's deceased H. Including to his parents, her inlaws. I told all those grieving people the news on that terrible day. Exactly BECAUSE I didn't want them hearing it through gossip. They remain extremely grateful to me for having the courage to do it myself instead leaving them to the mercy of gossip they could not trust. indeed they had been hearing gossip which had been making them very nervous and unsure for ages.
I am not sure why you are so keen to avoid conflict. You come across as a man who feels guilty, unsure of himself and as though he will be blamed.
You seem more concerned about the trouble than what is right.
Possibly it is the leftover guilt of being an OM. However you can deal with that and get it over with.