Of course she's going to tell the court that you're damaging the kids with exposure. Right after she admits to her skanky affairs in a public court!
They all threaten it, never do it. Ignore.
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I have a PI that will do some investigating but it will cost me $500... I'm struggling right now with my attorney fees.
I honestly think she has moved on from the first affairs. She got really depressed at the end of January and I think one of her affiars called it off with her.
She started dating the second week of March. She told the kids that she was going to start dating. She is being a HORRIBLE mother right now. She will leave the kids and tell them she is going to the store and be gone 3-4 hours. My 11 yr old son can't stand her and calls her a liar. He sees through all her BS.
Then a PI is a much better investment right now than a lawyer because evidence can both save your marriage and get you custody. Particularly as yours is super hopeless and has led you up a blind alley. you will only need a PI for a few days. While he gets good evidence you can interview new, super tough lawyers.
I honestly think she has moved on from the first affairs. She got really depressed at the end of January and I think one of her affiars called it off with her. .
The truth is you have no idea. Affairees are commonly depressed and are on again off again. She's been giving you the impression she has lots of lovers but that's pretty likely just a tactic to make you feel hopeless.
Lips moving = lying.
It's highly likely she's protecting someone. Probably her HS boyfriend. Is he married?
If she were catting around with lots of guys she would have kept you home as a babysitter and manipulated you in different ways by calling you controlling if you didn't babysit.
If you can catch her with a married boyfriend she cares about, you will have struck gold and will be halfway to winning.
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I have a PI that will do some investigating but it will cost me $500... I'm struggling right now with my attorney fees.
I honestly think she has moved on from the first affairs. She got really depressed at the end of January and I think one of her affiars called it off with her.
She started dating the second week of March. She told the kids that she was going to start dating. She is being a HORRIBLE mother right now. She will leave the kids and tell them she is going to the store and be gone 3-4 hours. My 11 yr old son can't stand her and calls her a liar. He sees through all her BS. I'm not going to fight her for custody. I will let my older children decide where they are going to live and hope they pick me. I just dont have the financial means to fight her for custody. She doesn't care about me or the kids. She just cares about having fun and $$$
Please get off the ground and lawyer up. You are all your kids have. Start calling round for quotes and deals after you call the PI.
I have told the kids... She then tells me I am damaging them and that she is going to use that against me in the custody hearing.
I didn't get the full name of the OM that went with her to California because I had a friend look it up and she got nervous and only saw the name "Thomas".
I honestly believe she has had multiple affairs... I don't think there has been just one. I think she likes the attention she gets from multiple men.
The restraining order wont be lifted until after the divorce goes through..
I've always made the house payment. I stopped my checks from going into our joint account the last 2 weeks in February and I haven't given her any since. She's now telling me that she is going to go after me for back child support.
I'd give anything to save this marriage but she's blocked me at all the intersections. I'm not even supposed to have any interactions with her.
I'm so tired and depressed. I can't believe what she is doing. I told her I was going to make copies of the police statement where she admitted to being with 8 different men and pass them around the neightborhood. She told me it made her physically ill to think that I would do such a thing. HOW DOES SHE THINK I FEEL!!!
Don't threaten, that's stupid. Stay quiet while you Plan.
You need to expose the affair, including exposure of at least one OM. Can you get a PI to follow her? Might also turn up stuff for the custody case. Hard to believe she's being a good mother right now.
You can also make a fake FB account to snoop with.
Can you call some PIs asap?
I wish I would have found you guys sooner. Like 4 months ago.. It seems like I have my hands tied because of the restraining order. .
It's never too late to start doing it right
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She has said she wants to go through with the divorce and then start over as "friends" and see if we can try again. I don't buy it. She always brings that up only when talking about letting her have the house. Giving me a false hope that we can fix things and be together BUT only if I let her have the house.
Yeah, you have time.
She's deathly afraid of exposure. She thinks that if she can get to the cleansing state of 'divorced' without people finding out, she's golden.
She probably does want to be your friend too. Most waywards want that. You get to do the hard work parenting, financial support while telling her you don't blame her at all for kicking your heart out.
You should take advantage of this to Plan A - don't respond to friendly overtures though unless you can legally. She might even lift the RO If it's the only way to be friends.