try this on... when you were still in the ea stage... what if your H found out and decided it was going in the "wrong" direction and said something to you, how would you feel? would you feel saved or defensive?

you are still married to him. he is going through a rough time. you betrayed him (sorry!) and he is going through this. you have decided that it was a mistake and want to save the M. sounds to me like he has tried and decided not to (sorry!). the posters here vehemently believe that this can be worked out. and so do I.

you know what to do in your heart. if snooping doesnt feel right, dont do it. continue doing what youve been doing though. you need to break his resistance to "getting close' to you. how much time will you have before he leaves again?

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