TFC, you're still bouncing off the walls. Lots of random thoughts, some theorizing, but little action.

I realize that - be patient with me, its only been 1 day. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> I know its time for action! I woke up with a new attitude today, one I plan on sticking with. But I really need help on setting a step-by-step plan. I'm having a hard time with this (obviously).

Your first step is to break up the affair. What are you going to do to make that happen? BTW, your husband is going to be “livid” no matter what you do so don’t make that an issue.

Not sure how to do this. I've gotten so much conflicting advice here. Dr. Harley only suggested calling the OW, which I just can't do. I won't get any support from his friends because of my A, so exposure there won't do any good. What is your suggestion for how to begin breaking it up?

A suggestion: buy the book Not "Just Friends" by Shirley P. Glass, Ph.D. It'll be an eye opener for you and, who knows, your WH might even see something in it he can identify with, when the fantasy is broken up.

I will read it while on vacation next week - thanks for the suggestion.

I've read all the links you provided. I feel like my head is swimming with so much info I don't know where to begin.

So, I get that Step 1 is to break up his A.
Now the question is ... How?

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