My H has noticed my changes ... he's commented on what a fantastic mother I've become and how this is the woman he wishes he'd been married to all along. And, just today was so surprised to hear that I was seriously thinking about going back to school (something I've put off for a long time).

The Xws must then show their contribution which includes helping the BS and family heal.

So, I've made a lot of changes for the better. I've thought of this as a life-long journey for me - M or not. But, what happens if your H doesn't really show much of a contribution? Is this where my "strategy" needs to come in to play?