You have a feeling you can't approach him? Now wait a minute, TFC. You learned just yesterday he prefers straight talk and he appreciates you standing up for yourself. Did everything your best friend said to you last night fall on deaf ears? Exactly why do you think this problem isn’t at least partially solvable using what you learned yesterday?

How about...the short answer is to make an "appointment" with him...and hold him to it. How would you set yourself up for success in something like that?

Let your frustration flow away, TFC. Consider this for a while. It’s been something that’s been a factor in your marriage for a long time now. A couple days of calm thought and planning aren’t going to be at all significant in the long term.