Although I don't believe my H is aware of it, we seem to be working our way down the list of MB techniques for M! shocked

ENs: I think we are both in Plan A a lot of the time. Of course I still 180 him when he acts like WH, which isn't too often. But he seems to be making a tremendous effort at meeting my ENs. We have a date tonight! Our first in a looooooooooong time! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

RH: For the most part, we seem to have nailed Radical Honesty. Its what we do with that honesty that needs to be worked on. And I still don't quite feel like he's 100% honest 100% of the time. But these things take time. I'm trying to be sure to provide a "safe" environment each time he tells me something that might be difficult to say.

I think I am getting the Gaslighting under control - thanks to all those posts about it here on MB! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> He seems to have learned that I will walk away if he starts up, so the G(aslighting) comments are lightening up.

So, I think I'll introduce him to POJA this week ... H has always been a HUGE Independent Behaviors kind-of-guy, and right now he seems to be making some pretty big career decisions without me. While I don't think that I have the right to make decisions for him, or tell him he can't do something, I do feel like we should discuss these things openly and together.

We'll work our way into the Rule of Protection ...