OK... I want everyone's input on exposure to the kids.

Is there a possibility of damaging them more than they are being damaged by divorce. (So many have told my W that they have been through a divorce and the kids have come out fine... even better). I am not talking about their relationship with their mother... I am talking about their well-being.

If this happens... when is the best time? After I have all other matters in place (financial, etc.) I also need to find out about custody... and what happens if she refuses to let me see them after I expose. What are my rights.

This will get down right messy... I'm good with that. But I need to know the boys will be fine.


BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.

Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.