Oh, but we ARE to judge sinful behavior and point it out to the person who is sinning.

I think that you are misquoting Matthew 7:1, as many people do. The problem is...people quote it out of context.

The entire passage is Matthew 7:1-5:

Matthew 7
"1 Judge not, that ye be not judged. 2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. 3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? 4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? 5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye."

What Jesus is teaching is simply this: "Do not be a hypocrite and judge someone for doing wrong if you are doing the same thing yourself."

He is NOT teaching that Christians are not to point out wrong-doing or sinful behavior. We ARE to do so, while examining our own lives to eliminate sin.

It seems to me that you have behaved irresponsibly for much of your adult life.

1. Fathering a child prior to marriage with your ex-wife,
2. father yet another child outside of wedlock,
3. choosing to have an affair with a woman who was not yet divorced, and
4.fathering a child that you PLANNED without the benefit of marriage.
5. Now, you wish to USE that child to force this woman into marriage with you.

4 & 5 absolutely makes me think of the irresponsible young girls/women who deliberately get pregnant because then the guy who just wanted in their pants will somehow "realize that he loves her and wants to marry her."

You are exhibiting the same kind of stinking thinking.

You keep talking about YOUR child needing to grow up with both her parents. Well, if her mother's ex-husband desires to reconcile with her, why should THEIR children not grow up with both their parents? Over the past 6 years, they could possibly have grown up with both their parents...except that your presence in their mother's life interfered with the possibility of their parents' reconciliation.

Now, it seems that their father IS open to reconciliation.

What makes YOUR daughter any more special than HIS children?

You need to work out a custody arrangement nnd let this woman go.

You ARE in an affair, and you ARE in an inappropriate area on this forum.