No Bubbles, it isn't. Yes, she overspent by a bunch. But Retread is correct. She broke my heart and I could not leave that home and succeed at work. If I were a senior partner today, I could earn back in 2 or 3 years what she overspent. Now that kind of income is beyond my reach. Which is my fault for allowing her behavior to control mine.

This is about me and my choices. I have given in to revenge rather than rising above her provocations.

When you can see it coming, duck!