Susie, no, I'm not on SAA much, I post mostly on MB 101, and haven't seen newbies slammed with "kick 'em to the curb" rhetoric over there. Sometimes folks make decisions for their lives that are different than the choices that make sense to me in my life, but I'm grateful for the opportunity to support folks in their goals to restore their marriage, if that's what they choose. My mom years ago wanted to convince my dad, a serial cheater, to stay, but she didn't have the support or information, like we do here, to do that. I wish she'd have had this type of support available.

Me 40, OD 18 and YD 13
Married 15 years, Divorced 10/2010