Originally Posted by DaisyTheCat2
Hopefully your husband can 1) realize he needs to and then 2) actually get to the source of what's really bothering him about himself. I wonder if that will make him more willing to meet your needs.

I think he is willing, but not able. I am honestly at the point where i believe that he knows what is right, and wants to do the right things, but has no idea how to reconcile that to societal demands and proceeds to do whatever it takes to ensure that the most people possible think well of him so that he may feel well of himself.

As I am a mere one of dozens of people he interacts with daily, I don't count for much on his grand scale. He handles me with appeasement. Just like he handles everyone else.

Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
(Oscar Wilde)