EE, I've already answered that. Married, I can be with the kids everyday and diffuse situations. Divorced, I can't do that.

About getting married in the first place...I thought I had chronicled that conversation at some point on this board. He told me that he felt that getting married and having children was something that happened TO him. Not something HE did. It HAPPENED TO HIM. Do you understand that? I sure don't. All I can do is repeat what he said. I sure thought we were getting married because he asked me and I said yes. Then there was the conversation where he said that the only reason he told me he wanted children (after giving birth to his third child) was because he thought he couldn't have any. Um???? wha?????

I told ya'll at the beginning of this thread I was stupid...

Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
(Oscar Wilde)